I know that there are quite a few guys like me here who have discovered game a few months back. It has been quite a struggle for me but I see slow and steady improvements in myself. My biggest improvements have been in my inner game. My world view has been shattered and rebuilt again and again.
However I could not have done it on my own. My two boys who went into this journey with me with open minds have motivated and helped me. We feed off each other and give advice. Sometimes we fight and then we make up. Its often that I come home after a bad day with them and we have a deep talk that just rebuilds my perception. For example when I started out I was afraid of eye contact with girls or other people who were walking down a street. I was fine with looking into the girls eyes while talking with her but the subconscious wouldn't let me look into a girls eyes when I was walking down the street. My subconsciousness thought this was rude and I had trouble shaking it. When we came home and I told them about that they explained that nothing bad ever comes out of eye contact. My friend explain how women will only respect you for it and even if they don't want your attention they will still respect your balls. Its a win win situation.
Today, I found myself making eye contact with girls without shame. Its as if the high stress of yesterday and the concept of eye contact just snapped together and imprinted itself in my brain. Its just incredible how quickly this change happened. Each passing week I give less of a shit about what how I am supposed to act according to social conditioning.
This is why I think having a couple of true friends who are dedicated to improving themselves with you can be really helpful. Doing this on my own would have been so much harder and the learning curve would have been much longer. The second thing I got is that your mind absorbs new concepts best when its stressed out. Friends can help push each other and provide feedback which can be useful to us new guys starting out.
However I could not have done it on my own. My two boys who went into this journey with me with open minds have motivated and helped me. We feed off each other and give advice. Sometimes we fight and then we make up. Its often that I come home after a bad day with them and we have a deep talk that just rebuilds my perception. For example when I started out I was afraid of eye contact with girls or other people who were walking down a street. I was fine with looking into the girls eyes while talking with her but the subconscious wouldn't let me look into a girls eyes when I was walking down the street. My subconsciousness thought this was rude and I had trouble shaking it. When we came home and I told them about that they explained that nothing bad ever comes out of eye contact. My friend explain how women will only respect you for it and even if they don't want your attention they will still respect your balls. Its a win win situation.
Today, I found myself making eye contact with girls without shame. Its as if the high stress of yesterday and the concept of eye contact just snapped together and imprinted itself in my brain. Its just incredible how quickly this change happened. Each passing week I give less of a shit about what how I am supposed to act according to social conditioning.
This is why I think having a couple of true friends who are dedicated to improving themselves with you can be really helpful. Doing this on my own would have been so much harder and the learning curve would have been much longer. The second thing I got is that your mind absorbs new concepts best when its stressed out. Friends can help push each other and provide feedback which can be useful to us new guys starting out.