Quote: (03-05-2009 06:52 PM)Oblivion77 Wrote:
Quote: (03-05-2009 03:51 PM)julio26 Wrote:
Quote: (03-05-2009 02:52 PM)Oblivion77 Wrote:
Quote: (03-05-2009 12:02 PM)Trotter Wrote:
Sounds like her game is tight.
We need some data here.
Time to develop a good strategy.
How old is she?
Which city are you in?
She's almost 23 (quite young) I'm 26 we are in Madrid
Just for info I sent her a sms yesterday inviting her to a party we organized home and she hasn't answered back so I think it's over and I think it's a loss of time...
Did smthing like that happen to you? Like you loose all your game when u met a "One Itis"... How can you solve that?
Wait a bit.
Go out and get busy with your life.
Then re-evaluate the situation.
Dont overthink.
Maybe in a while you can call again, with non chalance, as if nothing happened and you didnt feel she ignored you.
Invite her out for a canja (sp?) and some jamon serrano.
I didnt have a similar experience but I have the impression that right now you arent too lucid. You sound too much involved, ergo not objective.
And usually that's a bad state of mind to plan your next move.
The bottom line is: you need to get game to make it work, but also dont over stress about it.
Just live your life.
A tidbit of wisdom I learned in all my experiences: when something works with a girl, it is smooth and easy since the beginning.
When complications arise at such early stages, I learnt that things rarely go anywhere.
Hopefully I dont sound cynical but seriously, when a girl is fun and open things evolve smoothly.
Of course, having game means you manage to maximize what you can get out of difficult situations but, as I said, dont overthink.
It is a gift to be able to let things go when everything is way too problematic.
You shouldnt be trying hard to "fix" this situation.
A major effort is something you should save for when there is an important relationship at stage, like with a girlfriend you have been with for a long time.
Dont act beta and you will be ok, no matter what's the outcome.
No matter the shit she brings to the table, you always have Real or Atletico on Sunday! ;-)
I forgot to answer about the IoI's she gave you.
That's easy to explain.
She probably thought you are either funny or attractive, but isnt sure about what she wants.
23 years old? she is young man, she isnt assertive enough to know what she is doing. She isnt a woman, just a girl in a foreign country, ergo her behavior is erratic.
You aint crazy for not being able to understand it!
The secret is to not try to understand her behavior, not at all.
Dont focus on that, dont try to dissect what she does, or you will loose your sanity.
Being so hot she probably is used to get many guys going after her.
And often 9+ really crave attention, especially if she is confident enough to "exploit" her beauty, charming random guys.
In the US they are brutally called "attention whores".
Believe it or not there are quite a few around, lol, especially in Los Angeles.
As I said, stay alpha, re-assess the situation when you are in control of yourself.
And of course, have fun with what you do, make fun of yourself as well.
Keep it light.