Quote: (12-16-2012 12:25 PM)Luxe Wrote:
Leaving a date based on that seems extreme. Most people don't pay as much attention to body language in themselves or others as they should, and while it provides subtle but valuable information and clues, even experts will admit it's not hard science. Maybe her leg just got tired.
It's possible this action in her triggers your belief that the date is going nowhere, so you pull back as well, and this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Then again they've done studies that show if you make yourself smile you feel happier. Maybe the same is true with legs crossed. Context matters if your are sitting at a bar, in a booth, on a couch or wherever. So think of a reason to stand up or get her out of that position.
Yeah I agree with this. I've recovered from the cold arms crossed pose many times. Often girls adopt these positions because of external factors (temperature, comfort), or because of shyness or a little bit of apprehension (which is often a good thing in my book).
I think many people just don't pay as much attention to their body language and "tells" as most of us do.