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(12-14-2012 03:13 PM)Sketness Wrote:  

So Im in the greek life social circle at my school, I have gotten a rather scandalous reputation ( just from hooking up with certain girls, and being forward with my intentions with girls) According to one girl "he just wants to get his nut" My question is, how much does reputation play in me getting future bangs in this social circle. Or will my "bad boy" image attract females

What you've said tells me that women are generally aware of the fact that other women find you sexually appealing and have been willing to hook up with you. The grapevine tells them that you're a sexually confident guy who other women find attractive (hence their willingness to have sex with you).

You're pre-selected. As far as your ability to attract more women goes, this is a good thing. When it comes to dealing with girls in your demographic (young, cute, western, middle class-ish; the kind likely to frequent your greek scene), there is very little downside here. These girls just want dudes who can a) have fun and b) appeal to their female peers. You seem to meet these requirements and have the kind of reputation that tends to be most successful in this environment. In short, you're precisely where you need to be.

Girls may occasionally throw some hate at you because you don't seem to want to invest too much in any one of them. This is normal, and should cause you no concern at this stage of your life. There are legions of men on your campus (and on all others) who are very much concerned with more than just "getting a nut", and are so willing to invest in a girl they like that they'd never attract the kind of rep you have. You do not want to be one of those guys.

The men who get the most attention from the kind of women you're dealing with are the same men who they complain most loudly about. They're not chasing after the kind of men who instill in them no emotion and give them nothing at all to be concerned about. That's a fact of life-the uncontroversial, utterly dependable, consistently available and heavily invested dude simply isn't in high demand. He's "boring" and generally left on the margins of the college dating scene. Do not try to mimic him-you're doing things correctly right now.