Quote: (11-20-2010 06:43 PM)Neo Wrote:
I used to never go for the kiss on the first date because I thought that the girls wouldn't be comfortable with it. Recently though I just go for it every time and I have to agree with Roosh, getting the kiss out of the way on the first date is the biggest predictor of eventually having sex with her. Go for it every time, if she scoffs you know she's not that serious or it may take a while to have sex with her. I always try to err on the side of being a little too aggressive, especially if she is out on a date which means she is interested.
I went on a first date with a girl a few nights ago and didn't go for the kiss. I have kissed on first dates before but I don't all the time. It just depends on the momentum of the kino through the night. Sometimes just due to the venue, where you guys are sitting in proximity to each other, topic of conversation, vibe of the girl, whatever...it's more challenging to kino escalate on some than others.
If you went a whole date without much kino and just talking, then going for the kiss feels very awkward. When you walk out of the bar or wherever and she's says, "I'm parked this way" and you say, "I'm parked way over there" and then you have the awkward little pause where you're trying to read the situation you can feel stuck. If that feeling arises then that means I didn't do my job of kino escalation throughout the date because if you are, the kiss should just feel natural like it's the right thing to do.
Ideally, the first kiss should happen while you're still in the middle of the date, not when you say bye in the parking lot after a whole night of barely touching each other, that's just too much make it or break it pressure.
If you didn't get the kiss on the first date, it's really no big deal. I don't even think that's a bad thing in the minds of most girls. However if you don't kiss on the second date, than you fucked up and she's sure to see you as unassertive and insecure, a deal-breaker for many chics.