Quote: (10-21-2012 02:19 PM)DoctaWho Wrote:
Last Thursday I, for various reasons, decided to go to a strip club for a few beers.
Fast forward to the end of the night. I've got a good buzz going, the place is closing, I still have cash in my pocket and the last girl on stage is one of the two I've seen all night I would actually call attractive. So I bought a couple of private dances. I tend to have a bit of an aloof look from time to time especially if I have something on my mind.
The stripper commented about how I looked like I did not like being "here" and I replied that neither one of was actually "here". When she asked what that meant I told her that we were both just "there". She was "there" going through the motions and I was "there" enjoying an experience that's nowhere near genuine. Since she was pretending to not understand the difference I made a weak attempt at a kiss, knowing with almost certainty that it would be a no go. When she turned her head I told her that if were were both "here" she would have had no problem kissing me because there would be a genuine mutual attraction.
Everything I have ever heard about strippers pretty much meant I was leaving dick in hand so I continued joking with her about things like what her real name is and why she has so many facebook friends. At some point she told me to just be blunt about what I wanted. I wasn't going to pay for sex but I told that what I really wanted was to leave the club with her that night but not as a trick. She said she does not leave the club with guys so I took a shot and asked for her number. I expected her to say that she would give it to me next time or take mine but she said okay. She even went so far as to pull her phone out from her purse so I could see it ring through.
This experience was a bit shocking to me because it runs contrary to everything I have ever read/heard about strippers and the few guys I know personally who have dated one met her off the job. At one point she did say I should come back to the club and I told her that if she wanted to see me she could see me away from the club. She replied that if I came back she would not expect me to buy dances from her.
I tend to avoid approaching strippers, waitresses and bartenders because their schedule is usually the polar opposite of mine and in the past I've had trouble reading women who do that sort of customer facing work. I told her I would text her next week for coffee and she seemed amenable. I'm wondering if this is even worth pursing and if doing so will end with an I'm working why don't you come to the club message.
Any thoughts? Would any of you pursue this and if so what would you text for the coffee meetup. Most women I meet have a schedule similar to mine, so I just write "hey, i was wondering what your schedule was like this week so we can grab coffee." does that seem a bit weak?
One thing I can say about strippers ("dancers" in their words) is that their giving you their phone number does *not* mean the same thing as with a regular girl, it doesn't necessarily mean *anything*.
Two other things are (I think) it's better not to go there alone (they tend to assume loners are loser-stalker types) and if you like one of the waitresses/bartenders do *not* equate her with a dancer, in fact a good way to connect with her is to talk about how sleazy being a stripper is.