I am pretty new to trying to set up follow up dates. Interesting challenges. It's a whole lot easier to get the girl into you and make out then it is to get her to come out for a drink.
What I think is my biggest problem (and maybe yours too) is going hardcore on the attraction and neglecting the comfort. So you make her horny that night and the make out is no problem, but the next day she lacks the connection and comfort. I rarely remember the conversation. What does she study again? Damn.
What helps me is when you meet her, just go for the attraction. Think I am a player and big trouble all you want. We kiss. Then before going find the time to sit down and talk. Be vulnerable ("Don't tell anyone but I used to be afraid of swimming" or whatever) so she opens up for real conversation. Talk about your dreams and hers. What's her biggest fear? Say "You know what? You are actually a cool chick" and tell her it would be cool to see her again. Then get her number. Make out and be the one to stop it. Tell her you will text her and leave.
What I think is my biggest problem (and maybe yours too) is going hardcore on the attraction and neglecting the comfort. So you make her horny that night and the make out is no problem, but the next day she lacks the connection and comfort. I rarely remember the conversation. What does she study again? Damn.
What helps me is when you meet her, just go for the attraction. Think I am a player and big trouble all you want. We kiss. Then before going find the time to sit down and talk. Be vulnerable ("Don't tell anyone but I used to be afraid of swimming" or whatever) so she opens up for real conversation. Talk about your dreams and hers. What's her biggest fear? Say "You know what? You are actually a cool chick" and tell her it would be cool to see her again. Then get her number. Make out and be the one to stop it. Tell her you will text her and leave.