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i understand your situation. you have some kind of complicated and inaccurate pickup map in head that gets you massively inside your head in social situations.

(08-14-2012 05:20 PM)allgood Wrote:  

I have nothing to say when I go up to these girls. This is why I wait for a signal of some kind - a glance, standing near me, something like that.

maybe VERBAL SKILLS in my signature will give you some perspective.

(08-14-2012 05:20 PM)allgood Wrote:  

hitting on just one girl in a club is usually so stressful

it IS kind of stressful and also weird as hell to be honest. everybody can see those guys walking around the club like a value leach, looking to trick some girl into bed with him. then they do that fast 'hit or miss' approach, get blown out and go back to their corner to look for other ones. some of them are shy some are wannabe players, that's ok, but the worst thing is they're too uptight, they can't relax and just chit chat with girls in general (even fatties whatever) and have a good time.

(08-14-2012 05:20 PM)allgood Wrote:  

it never occurred to me that I could learn to do this 'life of the party' thing. It sounds like you're getting energy from it, instead of it draining energy from you.

frankly, i'm not even the life of the party, i'm not one of these loud crazy dudes. i just socialize, talk shit with girls, play stupid games, open, reopen, dance and i act innocent in the venue (not predatory) so my blow outs are silly/subtle like girls walking away with smile. like last night, i approached a girl on the dancefloor, i reached out my both hands, she grab them, i gently pulled her in close to me and she just backed off saying "no no no" with big sweet smile (she initially thought we would just dance like friends), she excused herself cause her BF was in the venue. this is how blow outs look where you're cool chill and act innocent in public. (btw, girls can see i'm not innocent at all, it's the vibe, they know i hold back due to sharp social intelligence. the same effect is when a guy is martial artist and you can clearly see he's good at it but he avoids brawls by choice cause he doesn't want to demolish others).


PS.

Greek kamaki Wrote:

It is the usual trap.You see an inferior guy getting rejected and you think if he got the balls to approach being inferior why not me?It is not exactly like that.Girls reactions are an indicator.If the inferior guy gets a kiss you would be able to bang her.But if he gets nothing you are likely to get nothing too

completely weird conclusion and correlation, reeks of academia's white ivory tower armchair theorism. where does that data come from cause definitely not from real life experience