A lot of my friends think it's a big deal to get a girl's phone number and can understand this but why do you get a phone number in the first place? You get a phone number to communicate with the girl so you can see her again. Just like an email address or facebook name, it’s just a means of contacting her. You may be tempted to think that it’s an indicator of significant interest on her part and, unfortunately, you would be wrong. A significant indicator of interest on her part would be when she shows up for a date.
Many a times a girl will simply give you her phone number because it’s easier for her to do that than to just say no. She knows she can always not answer your calls or texts later and you will then get the "hint". Or girls will just give out their number to have a bunch of admirers around. They have no interesting in dating these guys, they just want the attention. Girls love attention and talking and texting. If she’s bored some night she can always text one of these guys and expect some attention and someone to talk to.
So, when does a phone number have high value? The value of a phone number is directly proportional to a girl’s investment in her interaction with you. If a girl spends 5 minutes talking to you and gives you her phone number what is her investment in you? practically nothing! A number obtained under these circumstances means there is a high percentage that the girl will flake on you when you try to actually setup a date. Now, if she spends an hour or more with you that is a much greater investment on her part and the likelihood that she will respond when you call or text her will be far greater.
By all means do get her phone number but realize that it’s value is relative to her investment in you up to that point. In the grand scheme of things, getting her phone number is the easy part. What comes after is the difficult part: getting to see her again. I get all happy thinking I am big shit by doing a contact close in a few minutes. Don't make this mistake. Push the interaction as far as possible, always. And don't break the cardinal rule: always, always leave her wanting more! You just can't do that in 5 minutes...
Many a times a girl will simply give you her phone number because it’s easier for her to do that than to just say no. She knows she can always not answer your calls or texts later and you will then get the "hint". Or girls will just give out their number to have a bunch of admirers around. They have no interesting in dating these guys, they just want the attention. Girls love attention and talking and texting. If she’s bored some night she can always text one of these guys and expect some attention and someone to talk to.
So, when does a phone number have high value? The value of a phone number is directly proportional to a girl’s investment in her interaction with you. If a girl spends 5 minutes talking to you and gives you her phone number what is her investment in you? practically nothing! A number obtained under these circumstances means there is a high percentage that the girl will flake on you when you try to actually setup a date. Now, if she spends an hour or more with you that is a much greater investment on her part and the likelihood that she will respond when you call or text her will be far greater.
By all means do get her phone number but realize that it’s value is relative to her investment in you up to that point. In the grand scheme of things, getting her phone number is the easy part. What comes after is the difficult part: getting to see her again. I get all happy thinking I am big shit by doing a contact close in a few minutes. Don't make this mistake. Push the interaction as far as possible, always. And don't break the cardinal rule: always, always leave her wanting more! You just can't do that in 5 minutes...