To the OP, how old are you? As you inch toward your 30s, it becomes very difficult to make lasting friendships. All my close friends without exception are people I've known since my teens. I'm open to meeting good new friends but it doesn't really happen. When you meet up with new people based around an activity such as martial arts or even game, your friendship often becomes defined by that. For example when I was taking Krav Maga, I'd get invited to backyard bbqs and such, but everyone would be talking about martial arts and ufc for hours on end. I felt like it was hard to get to know them outside of whatever activity brought you together. So they are more like activity partners than actual friends. Same with meeting wingmen through game forums, you'll probably spend most your time talking about game related shit but not know much about the dude outside of that. And that's cool if that's all you need, but that's a far cry from actual friendship. Because if one of you drops out of that activity, your "friendship" is unlikely to continue on. Since I stopped taking Krav, I really don't hear from any of those dudes anymore.
This is a major factor I'd take into consideration if I ever decided to move to another city. I'll never be able to replace the lifetime friendships I have here. I'm 36, most guys my age are now married with kids. They have other priorities than making new friends.
This is a major factor I'd take into consideration if I ever decided to move to another city. I'll never be able to replace the lifetime friendships I have here. I'm 36, most guys my age are now married with kids. They have other priorities than making new friends.