Quote: (06-01-2012 07:50 AM)UrbanNerd Wrote:
Quote: (05-26-2012 10:26 PM)MrLemon Wrote:
Wife Working: No way. I want her raising the kids. The need to have a career is the #1 factor that forces many non-feminist women, reluctantly, into a feminist world of brainwashing, and thus gives that much more cannon fodder to femnazis. A wife depending on my income is the first and most important thing keeping her clear-eyed about our relationship (she has absolutely NO interest in taking the lead...she wants ME to take the lead, because she knows that makes me stronger, and if I'm stronger, I make more money, which she needs.)
I disagree 100%.
A woman who depends on your income has much more power in the courts in the event the relationship goes south. The courts basically add up each of your net worths and divide by 2, so the more she is worth financially, the less you will lose in the event of a divorce.
I know, I know...why get married if safeguarding for a divorce?
Answer: Why pay for car insurance?
Now I can understand having a wife home when the kid(s) are too young for school but once those kid(s) are in school all day, that chick needs to be generating some money. What the hell is a chick gonna do all day while junior is at school all day and goes to baseball practice after school??...which brings me to my next point...
STOP MARRYING/KNOCKING UP CHICKS WHO HAVE MUCH LESS MONEY THAN YOU!!
Courts have field days with guys who make 3, 4 and 5 times as much as the wife/mother-of-child.
Yeah, different strategies I guess. My bottom line is, every friend or couple I've seen, where the woman has a significant career, has gotten divorced. That may not be true of others, it's just my local circle (upper middle class california people).
On the other hand, I look back at my Grandfathers and Great Grandfathers generation and NONE of them got divorced, or very very few.
So my conclusion is, abandon all modern concepts of marriage. Clearly they are a failure. Reject them. Go back to the 1950s and model my marriage off of that worldview. And in that world, the man worked and the woman didn't. May be totally wrong but it's my strategy and successful so far.