1) Where did you go?
Italy last year.
2) How long was your trip?
3 weeks.
4) How'd you research?
Tourist guides and Google Maps for attractions, restaurants, wine bars, etc.
5) Where did you stay?
Partly budget hotels or cheapish apartments, partly hostels.
6) What was the one thing you wish you realized before you left?
Should have made pipelining of some kind, and and research into nightlife, part of my preparations. Also, strange as it may sound: should have spent some more time befriending guys in this hostel environment. Many of them are just backpacker slobs but I also met some solid dudes who certainly also wanted to do more than just stare at either paintings or their phones, including one guy with a local social circle. We could have killed it in nightlife, or I could have gotten invited to house parties with local girls, but I did not invest enough time in this and I kept aloof.
7) DID YOU BANG? lol
Nope. It wasn't my purpose per se either, but still I got some good opportunities. In the end I went on a few instadates with girls from hostels.
This is worth elaborating. It's amazing to see how receptive these chicks can be. Often they're all just sitting there in the common room playing with their phones, sometimes for hours on end. I'd just sit next to them, strike up a chat, and ask them along to a wine bar or something. This worked every single time. Anything to get out of the common room and go on an adventure. The takeaway here: just because these chicks are glued to their phones does not mean they're enjoying themselves. Quite the contrary. They're bored and want to be swept away. But most of these guys don't approach. So this is very fertile ground. If they were DTF, that would pose an instant logistics problem, come to think of it. I'd probably solve that by literally "getting a room": pay for an upgrade to a bedroom at the hostel, or a different place entirely.
This one girl went and did her make-up and changed into something both sexy and classy, whereas I figured they carried only the usual backpacker rags. This girl made an effort for me, we were vibing amazingly well, but then we were joined by her guy friend (i.e. orbiter) backpacking with her (Scandicuck, silent, passive, negative, complainypants type; no opinions on anything except complaints). He made it his mission to preserve his maiden's innocence and to make sure no more wine was drunk, only coffee (at 10 PM!). This soured the atmosphere, and, worse, my own mood, and the evening fizzled out. They were leaving early next morning.
Had similar instadates with two British chicks. Again, same situation: one of them was just sitting there bored out of her mind, and would have gone to bed well before midnight if I hadn't taken her out for a walk. By this point however I was tired as fuck myself, and completely untalkative, and she just lost interest. Other one was a bit more serious and mature, but she really wanted to talk about politics and her feminist views all day. Huge turn-off. The first one also brought up how hard the economy is for millennials, blah blah blah. Some of these college-educated British girls can be such bores and I get so turned off that I find it hard to get over it and get back on track.
So although this kind of trip didn't result in a bang the first time I did it, it's certainly fertile ground. Inhibitions are lower. It's amazing how much time spent by women travelling solo is basically "down time" where they're just sitting around, bored out of their minds, not talking to anyone and not being talked to by anyone except their parents and friends at home, on the phone. Next time I will spend more time in one place and try to tap into social circles. Reflecting on this trip also made me realise that a year later, I'm not really in better shape than at the time and not making more money to fund longer trips and better accommodations. Something to work on as well.
Edit: also, this may be stating the obvious, but travelling and being in the presence of other people 24/7 is the original NoFap.
Italy last year.
2) How long was your trip?
3 weeks.
4) How'd you research?
Tourist guides and Google Maps for attractions, restaurants, wine bars, etc.
5) Where did you stay?
Partly budget hotels or cheapish apartments, partly hostels.
6) What was the one thing you wish you realized before you left?
Should have made pipelining of some kind, and and research into nightlife, part of my preparations. Also, strange as it may sound: should have spent some more time befriending guys in this hostel environment. Many of them are just backpacker slobs but I also met some solid dudes who certainly also wanted to do more than just stare at either paintings or their phones, including one guy with a local social circle. We could have killed it in nightlife, or I could have gotten invited to house parties with local girls, but I did not invest enough time in this and I kept aloof.
7) DID YOU BANG? lol
Nope. It wasn't my purpose per se either, but still I got some good opportunities. In the end I went on a few instadates with girls from hostels.
This is worth elaborating. It's amazing to see how receptive these chicks can be. Often they're all just sitting there in the common room playing with their phones, sometimes for hours on end. I'd just sit next to them, strike up a chat, and ask them along to a wine bar or something. This worked every single time. Anything to get out of the common room and go on an adventure. The takeaway here: just because these chicks are glued to their phones does not mean they're enjoying themselves. Quite the contrary. They're bored and want to be swept away. But most of these guys don't approach. So this is very fertile ground. If they were DTF, that would pose an instant logistics problem, come to think of it. I'd probably solve that by literally "getting a room": pay for an upgrade to a bedroom at the hostel, or a different place entirely.
This one girl went and did her make-up and changed into something both sexy and classy, whereas I figured they carried only the usual backpacker rags. This girl made an effort for me, we were vibing amazingly well, but then we were joined by her guy friend (i.e. orbiter) backpacking with her (Scandicuck, silent, passive, negative, complainypants type; no opinions on anything except complaints). He made it his mission to preserve his maiden's innocence and to make sure no more wine was drunk, only coffee (at 10 PM!). This soured the atmosphere, and, worse, my own mood, and the evening fizzled out. They were leaving early next morning.
Had similar instadates with two British chicks. Again, same situation: one of them was just sitting there bored out of her mind, and would have gone to bed well before midnight if I hadn't taken her out for a walk. By this point however I was tired as fuck myself, and completely untalkative, and she just lost interest. Other one was a bit more serious and mature, but she really wanted to talk about politics and her feminist views all day. Huge turn-off. The first one also brought up how hard the economy is for millennials, blah blah blah. Some of these college-educated British girls can be such bores and I get so turned off that I find it hard to get over it and get back on track.
So although this kind of trip didn't result in a bang the first time I did it, it's certainly fertile ground. Inhibitions are lower. It's amazing how much time spent by women travelling solo is basically "down time" where they're just sitting around, bored out of their minds, not talking to anyone and not being talked to by anyone except their parents and friends at home, on the phone. Next time I will spend more time in one place and try to tap into social circles. Reflecting on this trip also made me realise that a year later, I'm not really in better shape than at the time and not making more money to fund longer trips and better accommodations. Something to work on as well.
Edit: also, this may be stating the obvious, but travelling and being in the presence of other people 24/7 is the original NoFap.