Quote: (04-11-2019 05:06 AM)ATW in 80 Days Wrote:
I met her and two of her friends (both 5s) at The Club at Koi, a 39th floor bar with a beautiful view. It was ladies night, which meant free champagne for the girls. I’m not really a club guy and on this night, I would get tested with some club bull shit.
Like I said, she told me I was the first guy she dated in five months. Consequently, I was the first guy she had brought to meet her friends. The friends were skeptical of me from the start.
And they would later become jealous of me.
You see, my girl was the life of the party type, while they were more plain. So I deduced that they relied on her to make their nights fun. But on this night, I was absorbing their friend’s attention. And they were left to fend for themselves.
One of them lashed out. While Annie was away getting a drink, I made friendly conversation to the friend. Totally innocent. The music was loud so I talked into her ear a couple of times and might have brushed her shoulder with my hand as I leaned in to talk to her.
I went to the bathroom a few minutes later and when I returned, Annie told me that her friend told her I hit on her when she was away. I calmly told her that I did not and was just trying to be friendly. She was skeptical at first, but it diffused relatively quickly. I stopped interacting with the friends and just accepted that we were not going to get along.
That would have been enough club drama for one night, but there was more to come.
A bit later, Annie and I walked to the bar to get more drinks and walked by this douchey looking guy with his shirt unbuttoned down to the last two buttons on his stomach. Annie laughed at him a bit and he took that as an opening to talk to her, though it was clear she was with me.
I let it go on for 10 seconds because it seemed like it may have been friendly and she was amused. Though I wasn’t in a position to hear what he was saying.
Annie quickly tired of his act and pointed to me and said “I’m with him.” But, the guy leaned back in and was now clearly flirting with her.
I stepped in and said, “that’s enough.”
He retorted, “fuck off” and continued flirting with her.
I pushed him to the side. Not too hard - but enough to get him out of our way so we could continue to the bar.
He took a step towards me like he wanted to fight, but quickly came to his senses and walked away.
I remembered why I don’t go to clubs much. At the same time, I was happy that I successfully navigated the club drama.
To be fair Club at Koi is especially douchey, both guys and chicks (cannot fucking stand ppl wearing sunglasses inside). Beautiful young russian models but they're 18 trying to act like what they believe how models should act. What they don't realise is, they're models, they don't need to try to act like models.
And don't get me started with the guys. Its almost like if MTV produced a show on PUAs at clubs, and every stereotype exaggerated to the extreme, Club at Koi fits that bill.
The impression i got is the Thais that go there want to be associated with that kind of douchy crowd so not surprised with the attitude you got from the friends.
I would avoid pushing guys, not because i'm not willing to assert myself, but there are always ways to do things more 'smoothly'.
Usually if the guy doesn't get the hint, i would just make out with the chick in front of him, or talk to the chick and subtly manouver myself and her so he's on the outer and basically just plain ignore him.
He is a nobody to her and you, perfectly acceptable in a social situation to ignore someone if they're breaking social mores.