Getting this out of the way-
- You asked out a girl who had a boyfriend. What did you think was going to happen?
- She is a coworker – double nono
Anyways.
You fluctuate between hot and cold and she is receiving mixed signals. You are going on a ‘date’ but withdraw prior; you gave her nothing to look forward to.
Why are you talking about work if you both aren’t interested in that?
Why are you overanalyzing ego and trying not to play games? You’re already playing games so play them well.
The whole thing reads as her wanting some validation (which could have been directed into sex).
Your questions:
1-Did I go too extreme after she hasn’t confirmed the date ?
Don’t expect her to confirm it, you confirm it. Don’t be wishy washy either. Have intent
2- Did she want me to ask her out again by putting herself in my proximity
She wanted some direction and intent from you.
3- Her strange behavior 10 days before the engagement was due to her being anxious and not sure about her boyfriend and went to talk to me one last time.
She know she’s doing something morally wrong so this is completely natural.
Forget about this and move on.
- You asked out a girl who had a boyfriend. What did you think was going to happen?
- She is a coworker – double nono
Anyways.
You fluctuate between hot and cold and she is receiving mixed signals. You are going on a ‘date’ but withdraw prior; you gave her nothing to look forward to.
Why are you talking about work if you both aren’t interested in that?
Why are you overanalyzing ego and trying not to play games? You’re already playing games so play them well.
The whole thing reads as her wanting some validation (which could have been directed into sex).
Your questions:
1-Did I go too extreme after she hasn’t confirmed the date ?
Don’t expect her to confirm it, you confirm it. Don’t be wishy washy either. Have intent
2- Did she want me to ask her out again by putting herself in my proximity
She wanted some direction and intent from you.
3- Her strange behavior 10 days before the engagement was due to her being anxious and not sure about her boyfriend and went to talk to me one last time.
She know she’s doing something morally wrong so this is completely natural.
Forget about this and move on.