[the.king]

(02-28-2019 04:04 AM)Unikorn Wrote:  

I have a really big problem with my life because of my parents

I am 21, I am still studying and living with my parents because my income is pretty low. So my problem is this: I don't usually give a shit about what people say or think about me and my decisions. But whenever I make a decision my parents' opinion is a big deal for my brain.
I have a variety of OCD so even if am sure about something if i tell to my parents and they think it is a really bad choice or whatever, my brain automatically start thinking compulsively about how disappointed my parents are going to be.
So at the end, the decision that was easy becomes hard, because i hate to put the people i love sad because of me.

My parents never support my goals or my decisions so it is pretty hard for me to deal with this stuff even if at the end i do whatever i want.

Any tip for for overcoming this problem? I need to feel FREE, totally free, and not conditioned because of my parents' opinion.
Please help

Your parents love you unconditionally (especially your mother). Their DNA is tricking them to love you, because you carry their genes.

Although you should not doubt their love, you should certainly question all their advice and life decisions. Judge everyone by their results.

For example if a father is giving advise on how to make money, I would ask him whether he is a millionaire himself? If a mother is telling her son what girls like, you should ask yourself 'has she banged at least 5-10 women to be qualified to answer this question?'

Personally I know my mother loves me but at the same time I dismiss about 99% of the life advice she gives me (I'm 30 now). Agree and amplify all the way Honestly I think a woman's life advice can be safely disregarded by anyone over the age of 10 who wants to achieve anything in his life.

If you move out of your parent's house, communication and contact with them will be minimal and your problem will be largely solved. I used to be in a similar situation like you but now that I live alone most of this problem took care of its self.

Being in your 20s and still living with your family is of course perfectly understandable in today's society/economy but also completely unnatural and unhealthy from an evolutionary perspective.

From all the things you said, I would focus all my efforts on this: 'my income is pretty low'. Focus on financial independence - the earlier the better. Contrary to what people tell you, financial freedom will solve a lot of your current problems.