Chicago is definitely a top tier city for me to consider because of how friendly the women and people are from my experience, no one gives the midwest its dues for hospitality. The midwestern blonde farmer daughter types as definitely friendly and quite a lot of them hot too, plus the social atmosphere seemed more relaxed whenever I have visited. I'd say it is in my top 3 for cities in the US and the fact that the rent is reasonable compared to NYC make it a top tier destination for any single guy in his 20s.
The issue is that you are comparing Chicago to NYC and while it can hold its own, NYC is in a class of its own. Social opportunities in the city are unreal and I took them for granted after living in a tier 2 city where everyone is married with kids by their late 20s. Just the past weekend I spent time in East Village and the energy was so unreal, I mean the crowds you run into and the kinds of people you get to meet in the city, you just don't get this value from other cities.
And the whole try-hard attitude is definitely not an NYC thing from what I have witnessed, at least not in Manhattan and the more affluent parts of Queens and Brooklyn. People in NYC who are in the wealthier areas of the city are relatively chill and just go about their work and life. If anything, I'd say you get it more from people in the northeast outside of NYC and just people in areas where new wealth and 40k millionaires are a thing.
I have found that the truly wealthy and the people who have made it rarely need to try hard the same way that guys who are actually powerful (physically or socially) rarely have to put on a front. The saying goes that the loudest man in the room is the weakest man in the room.
As for NJ in terms of game, definitely not feeling the women there! I have met a handful of good looking ones but they just lead dudes on and seem to be tough to read. I will give credit where it is due though, the place has caught me off guard with the amount of good looking girls it has.
The issue is that you are comparing Chicago to NYC and while it can hold its own, NYC is in a class of its own. Social opportunities in the city are unreal and I took them for granted after living in a tier 2 city where everyone is married with kids by their late 20s. Just the past weekend I spent time in East Village and the energy was so unreal, I mean the crowds you run into and the kinds of people you get to meet in the city, you just don't get this value from other cities.
And the whole try-hard attitude is definitely not an NYC thing from what I have witnessed, at least not in Manhattan and the more affluent parts of Queens and Brooklyn. People in NYC who are in the wealthier areas of the city are relatively chill and just go about their work and life. If anything, I'd say you get it more from people in the northeast outside of NYC and just people in areas where new wealth and 40k millionaires are a thing.
I have found that the truly wealthy and the people who have made it rarely need to try hard the same way that guys who are actually powerful (physically or socially) rarely have to put on a front. The saying goes that the loudest man in the room is the weakest man in the room.
As for NJ in terms of game, definitely not feeling the women there! I have met a handful of good looking ones but they just lead dudes on and seem to be tough to read. I will give credit where it is due though, the place has caught me off guard with the amount of good looking girls it has.