[Brosemite]

(02-01-2019 08:01 AM)Mage Wrote:  

I dunno, the message I saw was - chicks don't did timid grocery clerks, quit a pathetic job like that, widen your horisons, then you become worthy. It's true isn't it?

As Waqqle said, there's nothing wrong with a being a low wage earner as you gotta start from somewhere.

The bigger issue here could best be described by the Arcade Fire song Suburbs ii of feeling stuck in that townie syndrome.

The grass is not always greener when when "widening those horizons" but the growing pains that come along with that eventually result in newer experiences, personal development, changing preferences with women, and just more overall lifestyle possibilities if one plays his cards right.

Essentially, the women that shun him after he widens his horizons will exceed those of that one grocery store chick who will long gone be a distant memory....

Everybody has different developmental patterns as humans as I personally benefitted off of:
1) branching off for college,
2) recycling friends/influences after undergrad,
3) doing the same thing over again when returning for grad school, and
4) then once more having to reinvent myself in the last couple of years yet again.

In a couple of those phases, I had stints working "shit jobs" at restaurants in the suburbs but was somehow able to date above my weight too.

(02-01-2019 11:19 AM)Waqqle Wrote:  

Personally, I'm not really of the opinion that you become "worthy." I think it comes mostly down to giving the impression to the female that you have higher value than all the other men she currently has access to (increasingly more difficult with the internet making more and more men accessible to her). You may or may not actually be of higher value. You just make her feel that way.

^That skill only comes with more trial & error & through branching out.

As a guy that's very well aware of his own capabilities & limitations as time evolved, I know for a fact that I would've never developed that "edge" if I maintained the townie lifestyle many of my high school friends continued even after returning home from college.

Then again, I'm back in my hometown living on the cusp of big city/suburbs as these townie type scenarios are ones I'm cashing in on now ))