Quote: (01-21-2019 05:59 AM)nomadbrah Wrote:
Quote: (01-20-2019 07:45 PM)Subtext Wrote:
You can't make yourself better if you're surrounded by people who aren't interested in a similar journey.
"Similar journey", "make yourself better".
Let's see what kind of journey you will be on, when you're divorce raped, develop an opioid addiction after surgery, get a psychotic episode after military service or come down with cancer.
I'm sure at that point, you'll just quietly slip into the shadows as to not hold back your friends from their journey of bettering themselves.
Here's the truth, you're one unforeseen event away from your life turning to shit. People are not just losers who "don't get it" or "won't work hard enough". By and large, people make the best with the cards they were dealt. If you want to think you're special and belonging to a special group of high achieving "take charge" people then go ahead. Pride comes before the fall.
But if that hand has junk cards, you turn them in and get new ones. So, if someone drops someone else, don't automatically assume it's simply because they're assholes. Maybe the guy who got dropped is a pathetic sack, with a history of self-defeating behavior, and the friend is sick of putting energy into trying to help with absolutely zero response. Which is why I asked what you meant. It was clear you had a certain situation in mind, but the circumstances were unclear. Which is why I asked what you meant.
How the individual responds to the shit life throws at him is up to the individual. No one else. Friends might make it a tad bit easier, but it's downright childish to think that friends bear some mystical responsibility to go down with a ship that isn't theirs.