[The Beast1]

(01-16-2019 12:27 AM)Lampwick Wrote:  

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San Fran is a poo filled shitty, but even when I go there for work, I still get women approaching me. Same thing in Los Angeles. Hell I'm not that good looking either

I don't know if most guys who are not good looking or even average looking can relate to this sentiment. Girls regularly cold approach you? It seems that most guys on this forum, even if they have above average game, report that they have to put in significant work almost wherever they are. I'm not trying to contradict you, because I don't know what you look like, but this seems odd to me.

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I don't know where you guys go to in California, but status seeking fake people do not exist as far as I can see. And I'm now hanging in some moneyed circles to boot in Los Angeles of all places.

Ever been to the Bungalow in Santa Monica? You'll find plenty of them there. They most definitely exist, especially in Los Angeles. That's the home of people that lease BMWs and then drive them back to their shithole apartments. Maybe your status is really high, and you're just not perceiving it because you're on the same level as the people in these circles. And it wouldn't surprise me that people who are in that position would be pretty laid back and friendly. Why not be if they've already made it? It's often the people who are trying to ascend that social structure that can be really nasty.

I agree with you to an extent though. People make a big deal about how superficial places like LA are. There are plenty of cool people there, it's just a matter of which circles you choose to run in.

So let's clarify a few things and I can talk to my own theories as to why I jive so well here. Hell, for all I know i'm running Ronald Reagan game.

I go to San Francisco for trade shows. I dress well, but we're not talking custom suited. I haven't worked out in 2 years, but my weight is consistent. I'm happily married, carry myself well, have solid friends, and feel like I live in paradise.

The last time I was in San Fran, this thick big tittied Jewish girl at an off conference site meeting took quite the fancy to me. If I was single, I would have smashed because why not, but I'm married and couldn't do that to my wife. She was the type that spent oodles of time traveling abroad. Let's not delude ourselves to the foreign disco sticks she was riding!

Let's clarify an interesting point: Being unavailable and above all happy drives women NUTS.

The girls that give me attention nowadays aren't worth the trouble. Some are decent looking, but I know deep down they would be shit partners. Most bitches can't come close to my wife's cooking, let alone everything else she does for me. Why would I toss this away for a lay that lasts like 10 minutes at best?

I have been to Bungalow and a few other places in the west end. I'm flattered you think my status is high, but it really isn't if you start to quantify standard status things. I get asked from people where I live and my answer is always the same, "Oh I live in North Hollywood and love it. It, like totally speaks to my inner valley girl!"

Always get a chuckle from this.

It's a mindset thing. I personally believe I truly live in paradise. Everything about this city jives with me. The weather, the roads, the culture, it's a dream. NoHo is also really affordable. Can't beat that!

I also get to drive my dream car here which is a classic Benz. Do you know that this piece of crap has stranded me twice now, was on the verge of critical engine failure up until fairly recently, and is technically in its mid 30s?

I couldn't afford to drive a car like that in the UK or even on the east coast. The damn thing looks so cool and is so much fun to drive.

Someone over New Year's remarked to me that I ask a lot of questions about people in that I get people talking about themselves more than I talk about me. Frankly, I don't think my life is all that interesting. I work from home, do sales, drive an old ass car that's more trouble than it's worth, and go to church on Sundays.

Everyone here has a story, loaded with drama. Suss it out of them!

Ironically, the hate people give San Francisco is precisely how I feel about Boston. Boston is truly the most miserable, hateful place in the entire world. It's practically purgatory and my style of conversation would leave people thinking, "What the f*ck is this guy asking me crap for?"

"To get to know you Masshole!"

Tl;Dr - how to make friends and influence people in LA and San Fran
1. Ask them questions about their lives. Speak 40% to people's 60%.
2. Drive a cool old ass car you're passionate about.
3. You could be living in a place like Boston or Toronto. Weather drives 75% of happiness.