Quote: (11-26-2018 12:44 PM)Professor When Wrote:
It goes deeper than just approaches and women being bitchy with inflated egos. It goes right down to the core of indoctrination through schools and adults telling children how the world works. Most of it can be boiled down to "girls are special, boys are trash." It's about boys being raised believing that they are wrong, that they are the enemy.
It took me a long time to realize that I had a support system from my father, but most boys don't have even that. Many boys are either the products of single mothers (I think we're up to 40% in the US) or they have spineless fathers that make them equally spineless. I learned in my early childhood that any risk I take is met with disapproval and failure. It was hard to overcome that mindset, especially since that is the reality for me when dealing with women.
Sure, whining isn't going to help, but it is the first step in acknowledging that things are fucked up. There's a difference between saying that things are bad, here's how you adapt vs. telling him it's all his fault for his negativity.
It's good you are looking at the deeper causes of failure. However, it would be more useful to look at the causes of failure within yourself because you will never be able to change society but you can change yourself. You're an adult now, the indoctrination in schools when you were small should not matter, if you are an adult you can make up your own mind, you are no longer controlled by school. Yes, this world makes it a lot easier for women, it's true, it's unfair, but the only thing you can change is you. Sure, it's hard. Very hard. Ultimately, if you fail though it is your fault, because you made the wrong choices. Not schools. Not society, not an absent father. It's you. Nobody is responsible for you but yourself.