Quote: (07-10-2018 02:30 PM)jamaicabound Wrote:
I was about 29 around the time I finally slowly started getting my life together. I was living at home with my folks, was unemployed and between jobs, really had no passions, no direction, etc.
Here's one thing to keep in mind, very few if any of your friends have it figured out or feel confident in what they are doing, everyone feels clueless, even those a bit ahead of you in life.
I was basically where you are at your same age and fast forward about 5 years and I have a business doing over 3 million per year in sales, bought a new house, and overall thigns are going pretty good. Not saying you have to wait 5 years either, things slowly over time started improving and kept getting better.
here's the tough part. Right now you feel like shit and therefore probably don't wanna do shit, you don't feel confident, your waiting for the motivation. You can't wait for motivation to feel inspired, you have to get out there and start doing shit even though you dont want to and that's where the motivation will start to happen.
The sooner you start doing stuff slowly your life will start improving, things will start getting better, you'll feel more motivated and self confident, etc.
I would think about things in terms of health ie physical and mental, friends and family or relationships, career and finance. Do something small each day to improve in each of those areas and occasionally grade yourself and see if one area is suffering.
Set a small achievable goal whether it be 30 minutes at the gym, a set of calastetics, start a youtube channel or blog, make plans with a friend or join a meetup group, etc.
Very thankful for this post. Yes, thats absolutely correct, things feel like shit and I dont even know where to start. I know that Im gon move in a little less than 2 months, I have apartment in the new town fixed and all that.
I workout alot, 5 times a week, also lots of cardio, so thats taken care of.
I hate the feeling coming home to an empty quiet apartment every day after work, literally no one who talk with, feel very lonely and miserable, that is probably the key thing which is fucking up my overall self esteem and drive to do anything at all, thoughts like: "whats even the point?" come frequently.
Watching some of the dudes I grew up with on facebook .. holy shit, one bought a house, a very nice car, got a baby on the way, large social circle, friends everywhere.
The differences between life quality of people is just insane. Imagine having friends who talk with you all day, cheer you on, positive reinforcement, just as I had 10 years ago, life gets much more colorful.
Rambling again, but yeah, thanks alot for your post, It gives me a little bit of hope atleast.