Quote: (07-02-2018 04:15 AM)ksbms Wrote:
Quote: (06-30-2018 04:35 PM)Batman_ Wrote:
I'm getting more and more bitter and cynical about the idea of getting into an LTR. [...] I went to parties and bars multiple times a week and it was by far the greatest period of my life. Before long, I was getting frequent numbers and makeouts and had a few SNL's [...] Now, more than ever, I actually feel interested in the idea of an LTR again, but I can't help but they are a hopeless illusion that will never manifest in the way I envision. I’m beginning to question the legitimacy of LTR’s and dating generally, while also suspecting that my previous LTR from my early 20s happened out of pure luck.
Watch, or better, talk to dudes (as long as you can have them talk out of depth of their hearts, that is) who've been in LTRs, aka "marriage" for more than 2 years. Even better, 5 years or longer. I can assure you, a significant majority (80% or more?) would love to be out of their LTRs/marriages and have a freedom that you take for granted.
Grass is always greener on the other side...
There are pros and cons to both, but it doesn't prove anything that the average person can't achieve success in xyz, especially something that is difficult. Most people are painfully mediocre at life, so what value is there in knowing that most of their love lives are also very mediocre.
Very few men develop the attributes and skill sets to attract the exceptionally appealing women that are worth keeping around. Many end up sleeping with a bunch of mediocre women and find it unfulfilling so they settle down with one of them out of laziness or thinking it's what they're supposed to do and they unsurprisingly end up feeling trapped.
The much rarer breed of men who can attract beautiful women consistently eventually find a rare one that also has an appealing personality and they settle down and are often more content than the guy who has the freedom to bang unlimited mediocrity.