Quote: (06-18-2018 06:53 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
Quote: (06-18-2018 04:41 PM)coffeedrinker Wrote:
Like, she took off my jeans just before we got to bed but then didn't do anything. I could have pushed a bit more but whenever I tried, she was clearly saying no and I rather stay on the safe side
You definitely should have pushed. I find that situations like this it helps to play the romantic. Get to bed/spooning position with her and ask her to take her pants off. When she objects says some chick flick stuff like "I want to feel your skin against me". Escalation pairs with "gradual". Get her pants off, put your hands on her boobs. When she objects says "I just want to hold you, wont do anything, promise" Then starts brushing up against her. You get the idea. Keep pushing and freezing out. There's a treasure out there in combating LMR, go read up.
I get the whole metoo thing but if this chick is in your social circle and you are just a nobody the risk is low. Her job is to say no and yours is to push. If she says no but she's still there that means it's "not yet". If she really doesn't want it she WILL tell you to leave. Women are fucking ruthless to men they don't like. If you can't bang her that night you prolly wont bang her anyway so nothing to lose.
This is a very common situation in gaming btw so next time it happens be sure you know what to do. Your place + alcohol + good music. Chalk this one to the game and learn.
I understand what you mean and I'll definitely try to more LMR tactics next time it happens. I really just need to be bringing girls back couple of times a week rather than few times if not less a month so that I accelerate my experiences.