I need motivation to date women again, but am afraid I'll get obsessed. Tips?
06-12-2018, 08:49 PM
Brother, please hear me out. And I don't throw around the 'B' word that much. But you are so much like me it's scary. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22 (to a random barslut) and wasted thousands of dollars in college buying clothes and barhopping trying to get laid. My grades suffered and I kept switching up majors due to the lack of focus and it hurts me to this day. I have done nothing with the degree that I earned, so I joined the military to get back on my feet. Since then I have been with my fair share of women and am currently in a LTR now.
I am far from an experienced player or womanizer, but I will tell you what I've would've done. If you are the type to get too emotionally attached to women, hold off until your overseas teaching stint is over. NOTHING will kill the freedom to travel like a woman. I am sure there are other men who can balance both but it seems like you would have a hard time doing that, as do I.
When I was in undergrad I applied and got accepted to a study abroad program in London. Finally, after years of deciding on a country and a program, I was able to find one and had the funds to make it happen. To make a long story short, I met a girl that winter who I fell head over heels in love with. We dated for a while but she broke up with me a few months before I was to start the program. I was so heartbroken I dropped out of the program and spent that entire summer I was supposed to be in London crying, drinking, and smoking like a chimney in my dormroom at the University of Maryland instead. It remains to this day the biggest regret of my life. A lot of my friends in college who made fun of my not getting laid are now married to their college girlfriends, getting fat and not doing the things that I was able to do because I was single such as living in other parts of the country, traveling to foreign countries, etc. They are truly controlled and have fallen off the face of the earth.
You have the rest of your lifetime to get quality pussy. And from my guess you are in your early 20s. Get your finances right, get that overseas teaching job and the language learning down now while you are still young. By the time you get to your 30s, with the traveling out of the way, financial stability, and a foreign language down to boot, you will set yourself up better with all of that out of the way to give yourself more to a relationship.
I am far from an experienced player or womanizer, but I will tell you what I've would've done. If you are the type to get too emotionally attached to women, hold off until your overseas teaching stint is over. NOTHING will kill the freedom to travel like a woman. I am sure there are other men who can balance both but it seems like you would have a hard time doing that, as do I.
When I was in undergrad I applied and got accepted to a study abroad program in London. Finally, after years of deciding on a country and a program, I was able to find one and had the funds to make it happen. To make a long story short, I met a girl that winter who I fell head over heels in love with. We dated for a while but she broke up with me a few months before I was to start the program. I was so heartbroken I dropped out of the program and spent that entire summer I was supposed to be in London crying, drinking, and smoking like a chimney in my dormroom at the University of Maryland instead. It remains to this day the biggest regret of my life. A lot of my friends in college who made fun of my not getting laid are now married to their college girlfriends, getting fat and not doing the things that I was able to do because I was single such as living in other parts of the country, traveling to foreign countries, etc. They are truly controlled and have fallen off the face of the earth.
You have the rest of your lifetime to get quality pussy. And from my guess you are in your early 20s. Get your finances right, get that overseas teaching job and the language learning down now while you are still young. By the time you get to your 30s, with the traveling out of the way, financial stability, and a foreign language down to boot, you will set yourself up better with all of that out of the way to give yourself more to a relationship.