Quote: (05-06-2018 05:28 AM)Bushido Wrote:
You should never* tolerate getting turned down for sex within a relationship. Next time it happens, walk out on her without a word and cut contact for a day. No amount of rational talking about sex or seeing therapists will help this. If it still persists you dump her. Any other frame will lead you to getting denied again and eventually cucked.
*Barring say, influenza or something.
I agree a therapist isn't going to help with attraction, I misinterpreted the OP initially. However game/relationship coaching from a guy who knows what he's talking about could help to determine if big mistakes are being made. Feeling terrible or over reacting to a rejection let's her know she has your balls in a vice and if you're making that kind of error it's likely there are other mistakes being made. I agree with Papaya that a power play or two could definitely get things back on track, but it might not work long term, especially if they aren't congruent with how you're acting around her.
There's a big difference between her rejecting one or two times out of the last ten for plausible reasons versus three or four plus with little to no signs of remorse. A fairly occasional rejection from a tired, bloated, menstruating girl without that high of a sex drive to begin with is pretty different from one that had more of a nympho temperament when you met and is now getting increasingly frigid.
That said, in my experience an attracted girl will give head or let you be a vampire during her period if you so desire, but typically only if you coax her into it. Many are just self conscious about turning you off as they view it as a bit crude. Regardless of her reason, pouting about it isn't the way to go. Ask if she's gassy and is worried about farting on you. Assuage her fears.