Quote: (02-14-2018 04:03 PM)kaotic Wrote:
Reading your posts I kind of sense your were unsure about a few things when it came to the game you ran.
There was a bit of frustration, some thrills, some confusions, and some surprise (in a good way).
The fact you're writing out your approaches and your thoughts out shows you're willing to work on yourself.
It definitely seems like you need to work on your inner game, personally I adher to the ABC rule (always be closin')
Always assume the sale, and always assume sex is on the table.
I'd definitely sexualize the date, but not in an obvious way, sly ways like light kino, teasing, sexual jokes, etc.
Always lead, even if sex isn't on the table - be direct but keep things light and fun.
Personally I'd definitely kiss her on the end of the date and try to make a lasting impression.
Depending on the girl, for the most part I ain't trying to know her "deeply" the first date or 2, I'm just trying to see what she's like around me and out and about.
Northern is also right, maybe there wasn't a connection, or maybe that's for next time.
Once you go on a lot of dates you get a really good feel of what kind of girls you like, and if you're in the groove also. Trust your guy.
I can't help but notice you're overthinking a bit about how the girl perceives you.
Quote: (02-14-2018 04:48 PM)Vill@in Wrote:
Quote: (02-14-2018 02:40 PM)the1element Wrote:
I seem to have this mindset with all of my dates, unless we have sex then of course I know she enjoyed it (obviously).
Why do you care if she enjoyed it?
You're correlating her enjoying the date = you getting sex (or at least some physical escalation).
She laughed and seemed to enjoy herself, and you had fun. That's all that matters.
She could have feigned having a good time, and if that's the case why would you waste your time with someone fake anyway?
Just have a mindset of outcome independence. Go out with a girl and have a good time. They are welcome to join you, but if not...then fuck 'em. They can go kick rocks. BUT, if they dig your vibe and you end up kissing/smashing, then even better. Win/win for you.
You're the prize after all.
I agree guys,
I did some thinking about this today at work because it ws super dead.
I am unsure of my game, I'm still finding it...
I also think considering this was one of the first girls that I went on a date with and she wasn't chubby, had a nice body and an ass that made me want to bend her over and fuck her right there so I think I put her a little on a pedestal.
Always be closing is good, I find with dates I get too caught up in the conversation and forget to actually seduce her.
Like I just "forget" that I should be trying to lead the conversation towards sex instead of just having a fun conversation.
I think I have fun times and conversations with girls but I forget the main objective in the first place..I guess.
Definitely, need to work on the inner game though. I have a strong sense of self but struggle to go after what I want..if that makes any sense.
Like with what Villian said, I have a hard time with thinking I'm the prize but I definitely have improved in the past few months.
I wish I had another date tonight, I would love to take what I learned earlier today and see if I can do better....
One thing I'm looking forward to moving to a more vibrant city, I can put more time into game and have more girls to choose from.
I feel like I don't take things serious enough, I like joking and dicking around but I don't know when to stop that and move to being sexual.
I appreciate the comments though guys.