Quote: (01-14-2018 09:48 PM)polar Wrote:
Quote: (01-11-2018 12:38 AM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:
You know the phrase "not all women are like that?" Well, it's mocked over at Rollo Tomassi's and other places. But as with most cliches, I think it's true.
So, my take here is that this "case study" did prove women are gold diggers...the ones that took the bait. But it didn't count the ones who didn't.
Who would those be? Those would be women like the modest bookworms/church girls I knew in college who practically ran screaming away from any guy who was "flashy" in their eyes.
It would also include the hippie chicks I knew who went on tour with the Grateful Dead and avoided material possessions and shacked up with broke hippie guys. (True story: I used to casually date one in college they called "the braless wonder" who was crazy about my broke ass and laughed in the face of a frat boy who tried to impress her.)
Later on in life, I met female editors (some of whom were absolutely gorgeous) and they tended to prefer brainiacs or "men with a passion" over anyone else. They often rejected much, much better prospects for "thinkers" or oddballs.
Thanks to Facebook, Linkedin, and the passing years, I'm now able to see how the bookworms, hippies, and editors turned out.
They didn't change. They didn't marry wealth. Two examples: The cute/sexy bookworm I hooked up with at Freshmen Orientation works as a pharmacist and married a guitar teacher who apparently teaches kids lessons for very little money. And the super-hot 6'0" tall editor who could have been a model married a part-time professor.
Money is nice for attracting a certain breed of woman. But women are strange and it won't lure them all. I think the "not all women are like that" crowd are overly simplifying a very complicated topic and need to listen to Joe Jackson's "Is She Really Going Out With Him?" for a reality check.
DoBA, so what does the data sheet re: meeting one of these college bookworms look like?
I don't understand the question. I met these girls in college. They disappeared pretty early on. It was a long time ago.
The best I can do is recommend the following to college guys: Go out of your way to look at the girls who are otherwise invisible to you. The ones who are cute but not overtly sexy. The ones who are friendly but shy. The ones who wear sweaters that look like grandma bought them. The ones in the library Thursday nights when you're at the kegger. The ones on the all-girls floor of the dorm.
A lot of these are your best long-term bets. Girls who look immature and undevloped in college stay looking young. And girls who don't date much don't end up tainted by an endless parade of guys.
I didn't see it this way in college. I wanted the hot, popular girls and was embarrassed whenever the un-stylish, bookish girls used to come talk to me. I used to think: "I'm not gonna date a virgin! They have no experience, plus if I take their cherry, they'll never leave me alone."
But what seemed like innovative thinking at 20 came to look like a mistake by the time I turned 35 and now feels like brainless, youthful stupidity on my part.
If this sounds familiar, it's because I'm repeating myself. I've written all this before. I think the best essay I wrote on this was in a post based around Roosh's list of qualities to look for in a wife.
In college I was real quick to complain whenever I felt neglected. But like a fool, I failed to see all the good catches I myself passed up...until I saw what became of them when I got on Facebook 20 years later. They still looked good and all were in stable marriages. Meanwhile the "hottt girls" I chased did me no good in the end.