I think that I found the dating website that has the best ratio between men and women
11-29-2017, 02:53 PM
Its been over 3 years since I tried online dating, so it may have changed, but it has its advantages. This probably has been brought up in another thread, but to me it's a low risk, low-level investment that produces a small but steady output, like a savings bond.
The trick is to put in the work at the front end, when you first sign up. Like a bond, the more you put in at the beginning, the more lucrative the yield at the end. Spend an afternoon or two on your profile- It may seem like a lot of work, but it's worth it. I actually had fun, writing silly responses to the categories on OKCupid ("On a Friday night I usually am..."). Be as funny, cocky, and borderline outrageous as you can, since it will make you stand out (admittedly the climate is a little scarier now with all the sexual harassment stuff). I am a fairly ordinary looking guy and I had many unsolicited contacts from women regarding how my profile made them laugh. The vast majority of those didn't turn into anything, but a few did, which is my point.
"The Profile" should also include accumulating a few jokes/ humorous stories and funny stock responses for the initial message exchanges. Write them down. OKCupid wants you to answer dozens of questions to determine compatibility- answer as many as you can, because some women decide on whether or not to contact you based upon that number (I've actually had women tell me "no, I don't want to meet you for coffee because we are not high enough percentage of a match"). Of course the 'match' thing is crap but women don't know that, its simply a matter of maximizing your opportunities.
The one thing I made sure NOT to do on my profile, and rarely did when exchanging messages, was to give a straightforward answer to a woman's questions. It was always an opening to make a joke or silly comment, at least in the first few message exchanges or phone calls. Save the regular conversation crap for face to face meetings.
Its all about casting a wide net to grab some attention and sitting around waiting for the results. I treat it as a numbers game, a sort of a practical application of the 'abundance mentality'. No, I didn't get 15 messages every day in my inbox, but I did get 15 messages in my first month, a few of which I converted.
Many complain about the quality of women on line, their snarkiness, rampant obesity (and secret internet fatties) and those are all valid criticisms, but probably an argument or a different time.
The trick is to put in the work at the front end, when you first sign up. Like a bond, the more you put in at the beginning, the more lucrative the yield at the end. Spend an afternoon or two on your profile- It may seem like a lot of work, but it's worth it. I actually had fun, writing silly responses to the categories on OKCupid ("On a Friday night I usually am..."). Be as funny, cocky, and borderline outrageous as you can, since it will make you stand out (admittedly the climate is a little scarier now with all the sexual harassment stuff). I am a fairly ordinary looking guy and I had many unsolicited contacts from women regarding how my profile made them laugh. The vast majority of those didn't turn into anything, but a few did, which is my point.
"The Profile" should also include accumulating a few jokes/ humorous stories and funny stock responses for the initial message exchanges. Write them down. OKCupid wants you to answer dozens of questions to determine compatibility- answer as many as you can, because some women decide on whether or not to contact you based upon that number (I've actually had women tell me "no, I don't want to meet you for coffee because we are not high enough percentage of a match"). Of course the 'match' thing is crap but women don't know that, its simply a matter of maximizing your opportunities.
The one thing I made sure NOT to do on my profile, and rarely did when exchanging messages, was to give a straightforward answer to a woman's questions. It was always an opening to make a joke or silly comment, at least in the first few message exchanges or phone calls. Save the regular conversation crap for face to face meetings.
Its all about casting a wide net to grab some attention and sitting around waiting for the results. I treat it as a numbers game, a sort of a practical application of the 'abundance mentality'. No, I didn't get 15 messages every day in my inbox, but I did get 15 messages in my first month, a few of which I converted.
Many complain about the quality of women on line, their snarkiness, rampant obesity (and secret internet fatties) and those are all valid criticisms, but probably an argument or a different time.