I generally omit things about myself unless asked. It's the mysterious persona but also trying to gauge what kind of a character she is.
It's not being dishonest, it's just leaving out information unless pertinent.
How long? Honest
Intentions? Honest depending on how open she seems to be.
The former comes much earlier in a conversation than the latter so it's just adjusting to the momentum of the interaction.
Generally I am quiet but will apply a Socratic method in which I will basically ask questions to lead to where I want the conversation to go. Bonus points for getting contradictions.
The childlike 'why' questions also work in this regard.
This has a following outcomes, some mutually exclusive:
a) learn more about her and why she holds beliefs I disagree with
b) screen her for whether these beliefs are game-breakers, on a given time frame (i.e. could I bang and forget, could I bang and keep her around, is a bang not possible because she is intolerable)
c) not create obstacles towards being intimate with her, provided she passes b
d) if some tension and challenging would be welcomed (if I want to get laid) or worth it just to troll and entertain myself (she fails b)
The longer I know the woman, the more vulnerable I will be. It's not really about volunteering this information but rather, making it relevant.
I have mentioned this before, your personality can be an array spanning A-Z. If she only is receptive to G-T for example, I will amplify that sub-array of emotions (pull) and occasionally push (A-F) to get a response. Basically, shock the agreeableness of the conversation to stir up some emotions.
It really is a case by case basis and you will be able to gauge this during the interaction.
Generally, I am an honest fella who can be discreet. It's a balance.
It's not being dishonest, it's just leaving out information unless pertinent.
Quote: (10-16-2017 09:03 PM)TIOT12 Wrote:
Possible scenarios for discussion:
1. She asks you how long you will be in town? or what are your intentions? or other similar filtering questions?
How long? Honest
Intentions? Honest depending on how open she seems to be.
The former comes much earlier in a conversation than the latter so it's just adjusting to the momentum of the interaction.
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2. She states a viewpoint on some general subject that you patently disagree with. Do you speak your opinion or keep quiet to prevent conflict?
Generally I am quiet but will apply a Socratic method in which I will basically ask questions to lead to where I want the conversation to go. Bonus points for getting contradictions.
The childlike 'why' questions also work in this regard.
This has a following outcomes, some mutually exclusive:
a) learn more about her and why she holds beliefs I disagree with
b) screen her for whether these beliefs are game-breakers, on a given time frame (i.e. could I bang and forget, could I bang and keep her around, is a bang not possible because she is intolerable)
c) not create obstacles towards being intimate with her, provided she passes b
d) if some tension and challenging would be welcomed (if I want to get laid) or worth it just to troll and entertain myself (she fails b)
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3. How vulnerable do you choose to get with women? For example, do you volunteer information about yourself in order to try to create a deeper bond or do you always avoid this to keep relationships more shallow?
The longer I know the woman, the more vulnerable I will be. It's not really about volunteering this information but rather, making it relevant.
I have mentioned this before, your personality can be an array spanning A-Z. If she only is receptive to G-T for example, I will amplify that sub-array of emotions (pull) and occasionally push (A-F) to get a response. Basically, shock the agreeableness of the conversation to stir up some emotions.
It really is a case by case basis and you will be able to gauge this during the interaction.
Generally, I am an honest fella who can be discreet. It's a balance.