I've been in the same situation you described for a while, and it took me a while to get over that spot. Only by killing the cycle of masturbation, hanging out with players, and trying to eliminate most expectations did I pick myself up from it. Being picky is such a bad thing either. A lot of women I come across on my normal days out are some combination of overweight and fluffy (use of the word like every other word). It's hard to have any sexual attraction for these girls in any other situation besides going for that quick notch. The flipside to this is that it drives you to fap to uber porn whenever an urge kicks in. You MUST fight this if you wish to have the strong incentives to keep escalating.
That being said, I wasn't exactly making an effort to think about the other opportunities presented all around me. Most people just go out to bars and clubs because they feel it's the only socially acceptable place to meet people. I had to overcome this concept because only after reflection on some of the opportunities thrown my way, I failed to approach or act because my expectations were telling me I can only try to approach in a club environment. In situations where women were giving me wide open signals, I wasn't expecting to pick up that day and let the moment die. At the other extreme, I've overgamed girls who would have been more open to light game because I expected that I needed to talk for x amount of time or neg x much.
Every day must be treated like an opportunity to have fun and approach, not just friday and saturday nights. Every girl you want to talk to you need to talk to. Yea, she might be a stuck up, fluffy princess, but you'll never know until you look.
That being said, I wasn't exactly making an effort to think about the other opportunities presented all around me. Most people just go out to bars and clubs because they feel it's the only socially acceptable place to meet people. I had to overcome this concept because only after reflection on some of the opportunities thrown my way, I failed to approach or act because my expectations were telling me I can only try to approach in a club environment. In situations where women were giving me wide open signals, I wasn't expecting to pick up that day and let the moment die. At the other extreme, I've overgamed girls who would have been more open to light game because I expected that I needed to talk for x amount of time or neg x much.
Every day must be treated like an opportunity to have fun and approach, not just friday and saturday nights. Every girl you want to talk to you need to talk to. Yea, she might be a stuck up, fluffy princess, but you'll never know until you look.