I'm not going to comment on the overall incident and the various questions here, but I just wanted to point out that your inner game is really fucking with you on some of this stuff.
Case in point:
You actually had your self criticism backward in these comments.
Why are you ashamed you said these things? I assume you were feeling buzzed and confident and said them in a slightly cocky manner? Don't second guess yourself because you sobered up. These lines are great...if you say them correctly...and I have used this shit hundreds of times. It's called flirting.
Unless, of course, you were actually trying to convince her these things are true? If so, you've got the right content and just need to work on the delivery. Keep it playful and exaggerate. Simple enough.
This was the cringeworthy part, actually. Comes across pretty needy and eager.
Don't over promise with your public foreplay - you risk scaring the cat, and if you're not great in bed or things somehow don't go as planned, you risk having it blow up in your face. Women are generally pretty forgiving if the initial sex isn't fantastic, but if you oversell it and don't deliver, it backfires.
You are also giving her too much cause to worry it's only about the sex and start hamstering herself out of a second go round.
Sure, escalate physically, but play it a bit cooler. Stop talking about what you'll do when you get her alone and just focus more on actually getting her alone. The less experience you have with sex the more true this is.
She's flirting/shit-testing you. Think nothing of it.
Case in point:
Quote: (08-22-2017 01:53 PM)spiv Wrote:
I jokingly told her a few times that I was a gentleman (and she agreed) [I can't believe I said this!] and that don't put out on the first date [can't believe I said this either], but on the second date... I would "devour" her. (Said while licking and kissing her neck.)
You actually had your self criticism backward in these comments.
Quote: (08-22-2017 01:53 PM)spiv Wrote:
I jokingly told her a few times that I was a gentleman (and she agreed) [I can't believe I said this!]
Quote: (08-22-2017 01:53 PM)spiv Wrote:
And that don't put out on the first date [can't believe I said this either], but on the second date...
Why are you ashamed you said these things? I assume you were feeling buzzed and confident and said them in a slightly cocky manner? Don't second guess yourself because you sobered up. These lines are great...if you say them correctly...and I have used this shit hundreds of times. It's called flirting.
Unless, of course, you were actually trying to convince her these things are true? If so, you've got the right content and just need to work on the delivery. Keep it playful and exaggerate. Simple enough.
Quote: (08-22-2017 01:53 PM)spiv Wrote:
I would "devour" her. (Said while licking and kissing her neck.)
This was the cringeworthy part, actually. Comes across pretty needy and eager.
Don't over promise with your public foreplay - you risk scaring the cat, and if you're not great in bed or things somehow don't go as planned, you risk having it blow up in your face. Women are generally pretty forgiving if the initial sex isn't fantastic, but if you oversell it and don't deliver, it backfires.
You are also giving her too much cause to worry it's only about the sex and start hamstering herself out of a second go round.
Sure, escalate physically, but play it a bit cooler. Stop talking about what you'll do when you get her alone and just focus more on actually getting her alone. The less experience you have with sex the more true this is.
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She didn't understand [she's not a native English speaker and it was loud in the club], to which she responded with "what makes you think there will be a next time?"
She's flirting/shit-testing you. Think nothing of it.
Beyond All Seas
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling