Quote: (08-22-2017 10:07 AM)Paracelsus Wrote:
If you do break up your family to "maintain your integrity", you are basically asserting that your identity is not...
...by breaking up your family you will go a long way towards perpetuating the same cycle of shit that has been consuming the West more or less since no-fault divorce was invented.
You're making some sweeping generalizations here.
Divorce happens, and happens for very good reasons. It's not just a case of people selfishly following their whims. As a guy in my 40s I have gone out with divorced single women and without fail they tell me stories of how they stuck it out for YEARS living in misery, sometimes tolerating abusive situations..."for the kids". One woman I went on a date with but chose not to enter into a relationship said she only divorced her husband after she was physically knocked on her ass in the presence of her chldren. So sure, there are cases where men and women bail on marriages way too easily, but there are also cases where they overvalue the institution of marriage to the point where the home environment is more toxic than if they had just separated.
I myself wound up in a shotgun marriage and I only managed to hold it together for about three years before I had to bail just to protect my sanity. Martyring yourself for the kids sounds noble in theory, but kids are NOT served well if their parents are together in name only while living in total misery. Divorce with kids is about picking the lesser of two evils.
We're talking about the abstract here, of course. I don't know what the quality of Whedon's marriage was. If they had a great marriage that was firing on all cylinders and he just lusted after strange pussy then the path of least resistance would be to wank off to porn now and then. He didn't have to act on his impulses.