Quote: (03-06-2017 04:06 PM)ksbms Wrote:
Quote: (03-06-2017 02:03 PM)XXL Wrote:
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I'm on a biggest campus in Scotland but find it tough. If I frequent uni cafés, most these people return on a daily/weekly basis, and I could do one approach but then, it becomes quite visible and the words would spread that "this is the guy who hits on girls". The only way to work stationary spots is to wait for the prey, but very rarely a hottie would sit next to me to start a conversation. Mostly 5s or 6s. Or then, often in groups. And this is what I see around lunch time. Rarely a single girl, often in twos or more, mixed groups, or running to be on time for their classes.
You feel uncomfortable for a reason. That reason is.... You do not hit on girls EVER if you game in social circles and groups of people you see on the regular.
You meet them socially. Get to know each other. Hang out. Game from within once you are in as an insider.
What usually happens I see hotties stick to the hot guys at social events. Too bad I'm not one of them.
However, what frustrates me is that I have the ability to approach, in principle, any girl on campus or library, yet the potential consequences seem severe - from getting a label to having to deal with a temporary to permanent ban from the library, or even dealing with some disciplinary action and police UNLESS I'll do very indirect, 'incidental' approaches (still, in college girls' eyes it will be brave) and ask them out for a coffee, lol.
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Don't go in with the mindset that you are "approaching" girls. Strike up conversations with people in general, including and especially attractive girls, but just keep it casual. I am naturally very introverted, and was not very social as a teenager. I've made a concerted effort to shoot the shit with all sorts of random people I come across. Over time I became less and less awkward and developed into a decent conversationalist. When I go to talk to a cute girl now, it comes across as natural-- because it is.
You mention you're not a looker: unless you're seriously deformed, charisma/confidence trump looks most of the time.