Quote: (08-10-2017 04:43 PM)456 Wrote:
There's just a certain feeling of momentum in life with NOBODY to answer to (if possible).
Little by little, the routine that builds love and comfort turns into a straightjacket of sorts... the most frustrating part is that I've even felt this with girls who gave me As Much Space As I Wanted... so it's really nobody's fault but our own if we let a routine with a girl sap our drive to Do More (speaking in a business / projects / improvements context, not a new strange context).
I do feel a pang of hypocrisy when I get to this stage in a relationship, especially when girl has espoused the principles we hold dear here.
Saving grace is that I've almost never felt this way because I wanted new girls -- it's always been to get that lone wolf hunger for life and progress back.
How do married guys get past that?
Pan-reduced to it's essence, it's a mode of thought where one wishes they need not ever consider Anyone Else's Needs but their own. I am definitely oversimplifying and generalizing. Also glad the thread is revived.
This.
I don't want to trade her in for any other woman... but I want myself back.
I want the guy who had limitless creativity and motivation back...the one who had the hunger to explore the world, start businesses, and simply demand more out of life (and myself).
Of course, it's not her fault (directly) that I feel this way... but the lull of passivity and security rubs off.
Its a tough decision.