OK I thought you were transitioning to an open relationship. Now I understand this is temporary and you are dating so you can decide if you want to keep the marriage.
I still think it's an interesting situation and I like that it's different from the typical things we talk about on this forum.
I don't know much about your situation but I would be careful about the legal aspects. You've got 3 kids and your wife doesn't work so divorce could be a bad deal for you. Also, it will be easy for her to get evidence of you cheating unless you have some evidence that she is allowing you to date other women.
This might sound ridiculous coming from someone who has never married or had kids but this is what I guess I would do. This isn't advice as much as it is me thinking out loud. I would date other women while you can. Eventually I think you will find that most women are disasters. Most don't offer much other than sexual variety but sexual variety might be very important to you. I might try to convince your wife to continue the marriage with you being allowed to discreetly sleep with other women...although I doubt most women will allow this...even in other cultures they might allow it to an extent because it is expected in the culture but it will cause a lot problems which in turn causes problems for the kids. I would get the wife back to work. I would talk to an experienced divorce attorney about how to structure your finances and investments in case you get divorced. I would reassess the situation when all the kids are 18. I know that might be a long time from now but I doubt you understand how devastating divorce can be for a lot of men especially men with kids.
I still think it's an interesting situation and I like that it's different from the typical things we talk about on this forum.
I don't know much about your situation but I would be careful about the legal aspects. You've got 3 kids and your wife doesn't work so divorce could be a bad deal for you. Also, it will be easy for her to get evidence of you cheating unless you have some evidence that she is allowing you to date other women.
This might sound ridiculous coming from someone who has never married or had kids but this is what I guess I would do. This isn't advice as much as it is me thinking out loud. I would date other women while you can. Eventually I think you will find that most women are disasters. Most don't offer much other than sexual variety but sexual variety might be very important to you. I might try to convince your wife to continue the marriage with you being allowed to discreetly sleep with other women...although I doubt most women will allow this...even in other cultures they might allow it to an extent because it is expected in the culture but it will cause a lot problems which in turn causes problems for the kids. I would get the wife back to work. I would talk to an experienced divorce attorney about how to structure your finances and investments in case you get divorced. I would reassess the situation when all the kids are 18. I know that might be a long time from now but I doubt you understand how devastating divorce can be for a lot of men especially men with kids.
Quote: (06-25-2017 05:01 AM)chitown72 Wrote:I would like to hear more about your experiences. Don't assume that we know more than you about anything, even the short term stuff. It's good for all us to be exposed to different perspectives.
Obviously this forum mainly deals with pickups and the short term aspect. I was thinking of writing some of my experiences and thoughts on getting a good long term prospect and various ways I've been able to go the long route if anyone is interested.