Quote: (04-19-2017 01:34 AM)Aenema Wrote:
Thought I'd give an update but first I want to emphasize that I don't believe she is alpha widowed, he wasn't really a bad boy. He's a crazy war vet, and actually think the old man was pretty beta. Would buy her Tiffany's and other crap. I guess she was "adulthood admiring". She has told me that she dated him because she wanted to finally have a boyfriend, lose her virginity, and to become a woman. I don't think her advising me not to take a pill the next day is selfish, because repeated daily use will cause dependence and withdrawals. She knows this.
I told her that I was unsure about where the relationship was heading because of her drug use and that I intended to go on dates with a couple of girls I met off Tinder. She cried and told me that she loved me and doesn't want me to leave, but to go ahead on the dates, and that she knows I will be back because she believes that our connection is greater than anything I'll be able to have with someone else. And truthfully, I wasn't into any of the girls. After all, how can some career crazy feminist who meets men on Tinder and has casual sex to my beautiful, thin girlfriend who is smart and awesome to be around that just happened to have a relatively mild drug problem?
She has since quit smoking marijuana but I'm sure she will still take morphine or percocet for her cramps. I feel like this is honestly something I can look past in the grand scheme of things and I really don't think it disqualifies her from growing into a great wife and mother some day. Thank you all for your advice but at the end of the day a man must follow his heart and I am in love with her as she is with me. No one on this forum knows her or knows me so they can only go based off of anecdotes. I guess I am just not as much of a casanova as the men on this forum.
You just really don't think highly of yourself. That you would bet your future on a women with a "mild drug problem". That you would possibly co-mingle your finances with her, possibly have a baby with her, or just generally be seen and made known that you associate with her. It will be assumed that you too are a drug addict. In the eyes of the law, who will likely be watching her if she is using/buying opiates illegally, there is no difference. You are now stained with this. You really dont care about your life.
The problem here is not your girlfriend, its you. You have extremely low self esteem, low standards in life, and are the type of guy who perpetuates the problems we see in society between men and women in the west. As you get closer with this woman, and inevitably impregnate her, your life will only spiral downward in every possible way. Unless you are not telling us that you are worse off than she is.