[RaiseYourHand]

First, I ordered Bang and I'm going to read it cover to cover when it arrives. Second, I'm familiar with that Winston Churchill quote, and I love it.

Not-so-quick update... I was out last Wednesday night for a function that wasn't organized as a PUA event, but in my own personal way I kind of twisted it around to make it that, at least for myself in my own mind. It's sort of a sensitive situation, so if you want all the details, just PM me. It involves a certain social media site that doesn't allow PUA oriented events that I don't want to mention by name here.

Anyway, I'm having a great time with everyone at a Korean karoake bar and gaining lots of confidence, feeling good. Around 10:30, people start clearing out one by one, but this one kid who seemed cool wasn't ready to call it a night. He convinced me to go out to a different bar with him, and I did. While we were there, he called a female friend of his for the specific purpose of hooking me up with her. She shows up and she's just barely a WB for me. Once I get better at game that won't be the case, but I know where I stand right now. We get kind of cozy after she shows up and everything is going well, but by now it's 11:45 and the place closes at midnight.

Onto the third place, which was a bar/retro arcade that I wasn't particularly excited about, but whatever. So we get there, have a few drinks, play a few games, everything is going fine or good. I'm working on escalating with physical touch and she's receptive.

Then she and I start playing PacMan and after a few minutes I get on a roll and clear an entire board really quickly without dying. I step back from the machine with an intense look on my face, as if I just accomplished something big, and next thing I know I'm down on the floor with a dislocated knee. Fucking Sammy Sosa throwing his back out by sneezing has nothing on me. Total crazy freak accident. I don't know if I banged my leg into the PacMan machine or what. The guy I was there with and the bartender helped lift me up after I pushed the patella back into its socket.

I sat down and she sat down right next to me and asked if I was all right. I said no and grabbed her hand, then looked up at her face and in one motion went in for the lips. No tongue and nothing sloppy, but lip to lip at least. Unfortunately, I knew from previous knee dislocations that I was in no shape to do anything sexual below my shoulders and I'm still not. Cockblocked by Ms. PacMan. Couldn't write this shit in a movie because nobody would believe it.

My knee has swollen to the size of a grapefruit and it's stiff. I'm walking with a limp and I figure it will be at least another week before I would feel comfortable hooking up with a chick (assuming I can find one) and probably a month before I can really feel normal again walking around and doing regular everyday things. I guess when I'm going through hell, I should keep going.

Right now I'm so fucking bummed because I was in such a groove before the injury. Nobody can know for sure, but if I were an oddsmaker, I'd give myself a 90-95% chance of getting the notch that night if I hadn't suffered the injury. I got the number, but she hasn't been responsive in the days since, which is not really my concern. If we ultimately reconnect fine, if not, that's fine too. She might think I was blowing her off because I don't think she realized how severe the injury was, but that's because it hadn't swollen and stiffened up yet. I knew from experience how bad it was going to be, and I was correct.

In other news, a new-ish buddy of mine who I've only known for a few months who is very red pill and familiar with the "manosphere" but doesn't have a lot of pickup experience has solicited my help, which kind of makes me uncomfortable because of my own relative lack of experience, but it seems I have more notches than him (I think). It was a bit of a canned hunt because this guy he works with has been trying to set up my buddy with the guy's stepdaughter, but the coaching I gave him definitely worked and the conversation we had beforehand raised both of our confidence levels.

We both know he has to proceed cautiously because it's sort of but not exactly like shitting where you eat. Nothing here is going to lead to an HR issue, and the guy works in a different department, so I figure it should be ok for my buddy to meet this chick to grab a bite to eat and take it from there. I suggested the drinks-only strategy, but my friend doesn't drink at all. Otherwise, I would have had him follow Leykis 101 and ask, "What time are you having dinner on Friday? Oh, 7:30? Great, let's meet for a drink around 9 or 9:15."

Instead, I had him text the following (*names changed to protect the guilty):

John*: Steve* said all these marvelous things about you and really built you up a lot, so I hope you don't let me down when we finally meet.

John*: I'm thinking we should meet up this weekend to grab a bite and I have a few places in mind. Give me a call when you're free to discuss.

Kim*: I don't believe everything that comes out of Steve*'s mouth.

Kim*: That sounds good. Let me know where and when.

I told him to keep things as brief as possible if she actually called, but that she would probably just text back, which she did. I thought that was a great way to put the ball in her court without really putting it there; i.e., we knew she would respond (we knew since Steve* has made it clear that he has told Kim* about John* and that she has been at least playing along with the idea of being set up by her stepdad), but gave her the option of calling or texting to make her feel like she was in control. I also told him to limit contact with her until he sees her face to face on Friday night and not to make any small talk with her whatsoever. Save it all for the in person meeting.

He's going to text her Friday around lunch time to establish an exact location and time. I told him to leave that open so that he could use that as a way to indirectly confirm on the day of that the date is still on. I don't like the idea of texting solely to confirm because it suggests potential insecurity/clinginess/low value. OTOH I also don't like not confirming and just showing up after four days of no contact whatsoever because of the increased probability of a flake-out. At least this way, he can tell her the time and place, and she can respond back to confirm. If she ignores him, it means she flaked, and he doesn't have to waste a trip.

He doesn't want to pick her up in his truck, so the explanation (only if she asks) is that he's got class and going to meet her directly from there, which is actually true. They'll each arrive on their own, which I told him means they'll likely leave separately as well, but he's not necessarily looking for the notch on the first night because of this chick's proximity to his work. He only wants to feel her out first and make sure she's not a total psycho, which I told him might be difficult to determine after only one date.

I told him if she asks about his past relationships, the answer is a sarcastic deflection. He came up with a pretty good one about concubines, which I enhanced by modifying to, "Do you want to know about all my concubines, or only my previous wives?"

Since this isn't a cold approach, I told him to keep his mouth shut as much as possible. Let her do the talking while he sits there just smiling and nodding, with appropriate questions from him sprinkled in here and there with proper timing. This will allow her to feel like he's a good listener and that he actually gives a shit about anything she says, while at the same time not giving her the chance to think he's a self-absorbed blowhard who talks only about himself all the time. Most importantly, it prevents him from putting his foot in his mouth. Roughly 3/5 of her questions should be answered with a question, and preferably in a playful but sexual way. The others he should be able to answer in a way that increases his SMV in her eyes.

I don't think he's going to be able to kino her much (due to his inexperience with game) and I really don't expect him to get the notch on the first date, but my coaching him really helped me to boost my own confidence, especially since I'm physically out of commission for the time being.

Did I coach him well? Am I right that there are enough degrees of separation to protect him from shit blowing up at work in case this girl eventually decides she hates him and wants to go nuclear on him? It's not too late for him to call the whole thing off if the consensus here is that it's too dangerous. Assuming this is a go, is there anything else I should tell him that could be beneficial for this specific situation?

I know this post is really long, as was my previous one, so thanks for reading. I'll try to keep them shorter in the future.