Quote: (01-31-2012 09:17 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
It's called a social harness.
If you want women to the approaching
You need to get "famous", either through a job or through pursuit
- wait staff
- bar tend
- door man @ the club (bouncer works too)
- dj
- club promoter/club owner
- poet
- sing in a band
- rap
- host/mc events
- comedy
- guy in a uniform
- athlete
et cetera. (work and school used to be good options, but often times you gotta mix in some power- boss/teaching assistant - and that's now frowned upon)
On some Tao of Steve
a) you need to be seen - that's the key to getting women to do the work.
b) doing something excellent - you can't be seen shoveling shit, or
A is more important than B.
By being seen, chicks often develop a false sense of security and familiarity. She thinks she knows you and what you're about. She imagines a life for you and her place in it.
Same with being a regular at a bar or a club, a broad thinks that she knows you. So they feel like they can come up to you and start talking. That's why if you do night game, it's important to establish a base, instead of going aimlessly from bar to bar.
That being said, just because a chick initiates a chat, it doesn't means she's automatically DTF. Most expect to run their typical game to disqualify you and make YOU jump through all the various hoops necessary to bed them.
And often times, when you assume the lay (in a bad way) and you're not compliant, she gets frustrated. When a chick approaches, it's hardly ever in her benefit. That's why upper echelon chicks NEVER approach, unless you're Brad Pitt/Lebron James level of fame, power, richness, and recognition.
All Star Weekend is where you see women openly compete for Alphas, and often times it's the lesser chicks that do the most work and hotter ones just position themselves as best as possible to get fucked by an NBA player. I'm sure the same type of thing happens in Hollywood.
You're better off learning to deal with your approach anxiety and learning to put yourself in a good social mood without alcohol, rather than solely pursuing the popularity route. Cause even if you can snag a job that constantly puts you in contact with hot women, and they approach you, the same problems you have in approaching, of social anxiety and inability to direct the conversation, will appear.
This is standard Game stuff, maybe the 2nd semester. But the underlying principles of the 1st semester are present. This is why you know about things like chick crack, or wearing a conversation piece, peacocking in general.
^Damn that's good advice. You're right game is first, because once they come to you you have to play to seal the deal. Another approach is conference speaking. I've done talks all over the world, and there's nothing like having women lining up to talk with you afterward. So if your not a DJ like me and have opportunities to speak (or just find them), take advantage of the opportunity. Not only is it a "social harness" as WIA puts it, but also a way to improve your look, career, and confidence in general.