Quote: (02-25-2017 03:27 PM)kaotic Wrote:
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:59 PM)nidall Wrote:
Quote: (02-25-2017 02:00 PM)Splord Wrote:
As for frame:I think your frame was solid enough, you didn't use words like "honey", "please" etc., you saw a discrepancy in her behavior and asked about it directly.
In fact she texted you back after your "ok no prob".
Appreciate it Splord. Good knowing there are some smart guys on this forum who have the intelligence to discern this.
Once again passive aggressive, and dissing other valued members trying to give you advice.
I'm not sure how ones frame in a text is solid enough when you say
"Did I do something wrong?" - weak frame/questioning
"ur not the only one" - passive aggressive
"if you don't want to see me whatever...bye" - passive aggressive
Splord is right, you did directly ask her about it, which is good....in a sense.
But look how it ended.....
If you keep prodding her, she'll get more pissed, at this point all you should do now is leave it alone.
Even if nidall did things perfectly gamewise, she still might act like this. Game is not an exact science, what works on one girl might fail on another. Only results matter and in this sense there is no particular reason to overanalyse all factors behind a girl's reaction ("she may be on her period, I'd better check her garbage for signs of blood to make sure").
As for the passive-aggresive thing, when you resolve things by text, it's almost unavoidable to not look like that.
In fact nidall seems a lot more aggressive than passive , questioning her instead of trying to figure by himself what is wrong (if she really is on her period why should he know) and showing he doesn't care in the end (the "whatever...bye" part).
As for the members' tone, well, nidall, it's a hard situation you 're in and tough advice (and it looks tougher because the break up is recent) cannot be given in a soft manner. You didn't come here for commiseration, did you?
What counts is her behaviour, not her (or yours or anyone's) rationalization about it. If she made a mistake, she should apologize and make up to you, if she doesn't, forget her and game on.