Disclaimer: I am much younger than you. I didn't have time to write a short post so I wrote a long one composed of my musings.
Oneitis: correct thinking that you need other women, but they should be as attractive / pleasing to you in order to fix your thing with the teacher. Start telling her to do stuff for you, as simple as "pour me some water while you're up" or "grab me/us X from the store" to "wear X tomorrow, buy (sex toy), etc." Her going halfsies alone doesn't affect her at an emotional level. Don't respond to her texts for twice as long as she takes, on average.
I attribute her "hot-cold" attitude to 1) familiarity and boredom, 2) overall comfort at home but you aren't a long term option. You could also probably ratchet things up into Shades of Gray world (kinky sex, outdoors, toys, etc.) but you might also end up with a crazy clinger on your hands.
I'm assuming your financials are in order, you can swing the "high-flying businessman" archetype? If you're not worried about losing leads or being able to replenish, then amp up your demands and see which ones stick around. ie tell them to show up in a dress and heels, send you pics, etc. It will filter for those who have the highest interest levels. You don't want to take tire kickers on dates anyway.
If you get more of them through your funnel and to the date step, then to the bed step, you'll just kick the quantity problem down the road, and it'll take you more time to manage it then. Don't worry about this for now, you'll figure this out for yourself. It's a pleasant mistake to make, so long as you don't sacrifice what makes you great to begin with and got you there (work, sleep, gym).
To keep lukewarm leads warm use picture texts. Read up Krauser on text game and picture texts. But also, stop opening so many of them online, past a week from open to first date means leads go cold and it might be better to let them go cold and reopen in a month - "sorry, crazy with the business travel..." rather than trying to keep the plate spinning the whole time.
If your target market is 20s and early 30s, figure out what the ones that bite want from you or see in you. About a third won't be open to large age gap at all, a third won't care, a third will seek it. (Look at Giovonny's posts for some of the mentality.) With those who are interested - why? Are you the older wiser rich guy who they think can give them a golden ticket? (are you willing to shell out for tix to events for arm candy, or not interested?) Are you the badass biker? Do you still have the body of a pro bodybuilder? Figure it out and amplify accordingly. Think about projecting 50 shades of gray stuff.
Try to be more in control of time during the dates. Imply subtly before meets that you're a busy man, wheeling and dealing. If you find first date pulls don't work well, try doing a first date for drinks and a quick kiss somewhere, but keep it short, and end on your terms. Second date, propose the optimal logistics and work from there.
Schedule 3+ first dates back to back (different places...). 1h each. They will smell pussy on you, and if one goes really well you can flake on the others. "Urgent client meeting, hope you understand. Hate having to reschedule". Have an excuse ready to go to cut bad ones short. Just don't book them all at the same venue![[Image: wink.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/wink.gif)
How to avoid being placed in the boyfriend bucket? Don't be afraid to escalate and be bold, not pushy or needy, with making moves. If at first you fail, try again five minutes later. Escalate physically, deny verbally. ("who has a hand up your dress, me? Never, I'm a gentleman. I don't kiss until marriage")
You sound like a natural for Seeking Arrangement game (note: not p4p, we do not encourage or discuss that here). Look at DeepDiver's posts if that's your thing. In particular, look at logistics such as using a phone app to book a last minute room.
Also look at the blog of Blackdragon, who may or may not be up your alley (his old content was good, not sure these days). He's an older guy who is family-centric but has kept rotations of younger women.
Above all, re-prioritize yourself and your goals. This will fix your oneitis and your quantity problem once you get the fucking around out of your system.
Oneitis: correct thinking that you need other women, but they should be as attractive / pleasing to you in order to fix your thing with the teacher. Start telling her to do stuff for you, as simple as "pour me some water while you're up" or "grab me/us X from the store" to "wear X tomorrow, buy (sex toy), etc." Her going halfsies alone doesn't affect her at an emotional level. Don't respond to her texts for twice as long as she takes, on average.
I attribute her "hot-cold" attitude to 1) familiarity and boredom, 2) overall comfort at home but you aren't a long term option. You could also probably ratchet things up into Shades of Gray world (kinky sex, outdoors, toys, etc.) but you might also end up with a crazy clinger on your hands.
I'm assuming your financials are in order, you can swing the "high-flying businessman" archetype? If you're not worried about losing leads or being able to replenish, then amp up your demands and see which ones stick around. ie tell them to show up in a dress and heels, send you pics, etc. It will filter for those who have the highest interest levels. You don't want to take tire kickers on dates anyway.
If you get more of them through your funnel and to the date step, then to the bed step, you'll just kick the quantity problem down the road, and it'll take you more time to manage it then. Don't worry about this for now, you'll figure this out for yourself. It's a pleasant mistake to make, so long as you don't sacrifice what makes you great to begin with and got you there (work, sleep, gym).
To keep lukewarm leads warm use picture texts. Read up Krauser on text game and picture texts. But also, stop opening so many of them online, past a week from open to first date means leads go cold and it might be better to let them go cold and reopen in a month - "sorry, crazy with the business travel..." rather than trying to keep the plate spinning the whole time.
If your target market is 20s and early 30s, figure out what the ones that bite want from you or see in you. About a third won't be open to large age gap at all, a third won't care, a third will seek it. (Look at Giovonny's posts for some of the mentality.) With those who are interested - why? Are you the older wiser rich guy who they think can give them a golden ticket? (are you willing to shell out for tix to events for arm candy, or not interested?) Are you the badass biker? Do you still have the body of a pro bodybuilder? Figure it out and amplify accordingly. Think about projecting 50 shades of gray stuff.
Try to be more in control of time during the dates. Imply subtly before meets that you're a busy man, wheeling and dealing. If you find first date pulls don't work well, try doing a first date for drinks and a quick kiss somewhere, but keep it short, and end on your terms. Second date, propose the optimal logistics and work from there.
Schedule 3+ first dates back to back (different places...). 1h each. They will smell pussy on you, and if one goes really well you can flake on the others. "Urgent client meeting, hope you understand. Hate having to reschedule". Have an excuse ready to go to cut bad ones short. Just don't book them all at the same venue
How to avoid being placed in the boyfriend bucket? Don't be afraid to escalate and be bold, not pushy or needy, with making moves. If at first you fail, try again five minutes later. Escalate physically, deny verbally. ("who has a hand up your dress, me? Never, I'm a gentleman. I don't kiss until marriage")
You sound like a natural for Seeking Arrangement game (note: not p4p, we do not encourage or discuss that here). Look at DeepDiver's posts if that's your thing. In particular, look at logistics such as using a phone app to book a last minute room.
Also look at the blog of Blackdragon, who may or may not be up your alley (his old content was good, not sure these days). He's an older guy who is family-centric but has kept rotations of younger women.
Above all, re-prioritize yourself and your goals. This will fix your oneitis and your quantity problem once you get the fucking around out of your system.
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Captainstabbin: "girls get more attractive with your dick in their mouth. It's science."
Spaniard88: "The "believe anything" crew contributes: "She's probably a good girl, maybe she lost her virginity to someone with AIDS and only had sex once before you met her...give her a chance.""