Quote: (02-09-2017 01:08 PM)questor70 Wrote:
Quote: (02-08-2017 12:03 PM)RunsWithScissors Wrote:
There's been a few girls who were questionable and cutting them off resulted in them reaching out to me again some months later wanting to fuck me again, and in every case they strictly brought up sex not relationships.
In my experience when a woman throws out F-budy status as a means of avoiding the "next", she still wants more, and she'll hit you with those expectations later and when it forces you to do a hard next she'll hit you up with guilt/shame for how you're to blame for leading her on and wasting so much of her time. So you can't go based on what she says she wants. You need to figure out what she really wants.
I slightly disagree with this.
when you next her, you firmly communicate that you are in abundance and you are in control of the relationship. if they come back to you, then they are doing so on your terms. At that point, your relationship is not the same (i.e. not wife material) but it may be beneficial to you on some level - FB, greater abundance, etc. My experience is they are generally compliant with the new terms, and the small risk that they won't be is not a reason to not continue the relationship on your terms. You might have to end it a second time, just as some relationships you have to end a first time. The real value of this is not to get a 2nd relationship or avoiding the end of relationship. Rather, the real value is that the relationship while it continues is more likely to be in harmony with YOUR objectives.