So Anti,
Despite your rather verbose posts regarding your question, I still haven't been able to determine your conclusion. What did you decide to do with this girl? Do you accept her beta-orbiters and that she knows exactly whats up? Do you choose to remain blissfully ignorant, thinking your girl is either socially inept, stupid, or both? Are you looking for an alternative way to correct her behavior?
Sometimes I think people make posts like this (similar to VV's recent post(s)) hoping to get a go-ahead and a pass for a girls bad behavior, similar to how females seek "you go girl!" from their friends for their own poor behavior. I do hope I'm wrong though.
To address an earlier point made by another: Yes, you should, in context of an LTR, be molding a girl into being YOUR girl, but this requires the proper material to start with. Can you chisel a stone into the statue of David? Sure, but do you have the skills, the time, and the tools? Much easier to start with wet clay and make something out of that.
And even if you do have the skills to chisel stone, you need the right size, shape, and type of stone. Some guys just want to take a girl they've been with, and just because they've already invested so much, they want to keep her around, despite the fact that she has flaws that aren't going to change, aren't going to improve. Which would be fine, but the guy already knows it's an issue, he just isn't ready to admit it's a deal-breaker out of fear he'll never meet another girl as good as her again.
There is a fine line between arrogantly nexting any girl who shows even a slight imperfection and between accepting a girl with major flaws out of fear you won't meet a girl as good as her again. But if you're young and have a relatively high SMV, you're far better off "nexting" too often than you are keeping girls who aren't right around. It's kind of like investing---when you're young, put your money into high-risk, high payout investments, when you're older, switch to more stable, but lower paying investments.
Despite your rather verbose posts regarding your question, I still haven't been able to determine your conclusion. What did you decide to do with this girl? Do you accept her beta-orbiters and that she knows exactly whats up? Do you choose to remain blissfully ignorant, thinking your girl is either socially inept, stupid, or both? Are you looking for an alternative way to correct her behavior?
Sometimes I think people make posts like this (similar to VV's recent post(s)) hoping to get a go-ahead and a pass for a girls bad behavior, similar to how females seek "you go girl!" from their friends for their own poor behavior. I do hope I'm wrong though.
To address an earlier point made by another: Yes, you should, in context of an LTR, be molding a girl into being YOUR girl, but this requires the proper material to start with. Can you chisel a stone into the statue of David? Sure, but do you have the skills, the time, and the tools? Much easier to start with wet clay and make something out of that.
And even if you do have the skills to chisel stone, you need the right size, shape, and type of stone. Some guys just want to take a girl they've been with, and just because they've already invested so much, they want to keep her around, despite the fact that she has flaws that aren't going to change, aren't going to improve. Which would be fine, but the guy already knows it's an issue, he just isn't ready to admit it's a deal-breaker out of fear he'll never meet another girl as good as her again.
There is a fine line between arrogantly nexting any girl who shows even a slight imperfection and between accepting a girl with major flaws out of fear you won't meet a girl as good as her again. But if you're young and have a relatively high SMV, you're far better off "nexting" too often than you are keeping girls who aren't right around. It's kind of like investing---when you're young, put your money into high-risk, high payout investments, when you're older, switch to more stable, but lower paying investments.