Quote: (02-03-2017 04:36 PM)Vaun Wrote:
Sticking it out is the essence of game. Though there is a line of diminishing returns, where if she is done, she is done and there is nothing you can do. But that is pretty rare.
We are all guilty of this. A cute girl I was texting, was hard to pin down for a date. She said one night "I think I can get a drink at 10:30". I said cool. 10:30 came and went. I text her at 11, "hey where are you." She says "Oh sorry! I was with my business partners at xxxxx cigar bar". I said "well then, good luck" And that was that.
I could have stuck it out. I could have said "no sweat, Im crashing, next time you're buying.." I closed the interaction for good. I 'nexted'. In hindsight, she was a solid 8 Ukrainian girl 12 yrs my junior, successful, dresses extremely well, educated in London, etc etc. More or less gf material. A rare one indeed, even where I live. I never had the chance to build any interest in her. Stupidly nexting in that case was the wrong move before I had significant time to build her attraction.
There's a balance to be struck between nexting out of ego-wounding and pride, and nexting when you get the sense that you're throwing good money after bad.
Unfortunately I think in America guys just tend to swing hard to the "throwing good money after bad" analysis. So many women have such an overinflated opinion of themselves, and yet give up the pussy so easily to the first player who shows up who happens to tick her boxes just the right way, that following any strategy other than "fail early, fail often" doesn't usually make a whole lot of sense.
I'm sitting around trying to "build attraction" with this girl and hoping she'll stop flaking but, as she's American, I know she just banged some guy two hours into the first date a week ago. I know this because I've been that guy! So...what am I sitting around doing this for? Maybe they have unicorns from the Ukraine, but AFAIK I've never met an American Unicorn before.