Was it because it was a coffee date?
Yes. Coffee dates suck. you were there for an hour and a half with no touching? I know it's not 100% but with me it is. There is no banging after a coffee date. If forced into a coffee date, set your timer to an hour and leave no matter what.
Would alcohol have gotten her to be more like who she was online and during texting?
Duh, yeah.
Or was I supposed to be the one leading the interaction and making things fun and I wasn’t able to because of my lack of experience?
Yes, you need to be leading the interaction which is difficult because you're in a fucking coffee shop for an hour and a half. That's why you limit yourself to 1 hour. Anyone (even me who's pretty introvert) can lead an interaction for an hour. Hopefully when your hour timer goes off and you say you have to leave to go to your Big Brother meeting or whatever excuse you come up with, you are at a high point and will leave her wondering about you and wanting to go on a real first date not at a fucking coffee shop.
Should I give her another chance? If so, what should I do? Like when do I text her and what do I say? What should the next date be and when? Should I try to create a fun conversation with her over text before attempting to go out with her again?
It's what you want. If you want to see her again. I don't see why you would. No, no more fun conversations over text! Did you really think your texts were fun? Shorten your texts to logistics only. Be a man. Pick venue and time you want
Yes. Coffee dates suck. you were there for an hour and a half with no touching? I know it's not 100% but with me it is. There is no banging after a coffee date. If forced into a coffee date, set your timer to an hour and leave no matter what.
Would alcohol have gotten her to be more like who she was online and during texting?
Duh, yeah.
Or was I supposed to be the one leading the interaction and making things fun and I wasn’t able to because of my lack of experience?
Yes, you need to be leading the interaction which is difficult because you're in a fucking coffee shop for an hour and a half. That's why you limit yourself to 1 hour. Anyone (even me who's pretty introvert) can lead an interaction for an hour. Hopefully when your hour timer goes off and you say you have to leave to go to your Big Brother meeting or whatever excuse you come up with, you are at a high point and will leave her wondering about you and wanting to go on a real first date not at a fucking coffee shop.
Should I give her another chance? If so, what should I do? Like when do I text her and what do I say? What should the next date be and when? Should I try to create a fun conversation with her over text before attempting to go out with her again?
It's what you want. If you want to see her again. I don't see why you would. No, no more fun conversations over text! Did you really think your texts were fun? Shorten your texts to logistics only. Be a man. Pick venue and time you want