Quote: (01-14-2017 09:42 AM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:This is not entirely true as there was one time when a reasonably attractive girl practically invited herself to my place after a couple minutes in a club. She did not like my pad or my behaviour inside my apartment so she left. That was a few years ago and my preparation and social skills are better now.
Reading this and your other threads, here's my advice.
You need to find a group of close friends before anything else. Even if you found a girl for an LTR, the two of you would still be alone because you have no group to hang out with. This is a big barrier for women when choosing a guy.
A group of friends will help you through your social awkwardness and be there to give you advice. The added friendships will improve your confidence.
You will never be successful as long as you are fumbling along alone like this.
Other than that I appreciate your advise and have heard similar before. With that said, I get some emotional support from a friend overseas as well as my family so things could be worse in that regard even if it's hard to make friends as an adult. I've tried to make friends in a variety of places but did not really click with those guys. Even my best friend abroad is a very different breed and we do not really connect on an emotional level.
As far as getting further with a girl than described in the first paragraph of my response; I hope to be able to prove you wrong this year.
I went out tonight as well and can honestly say that the nightlife is turning my stomach over now to the extent where I'm more eager to go to pubs with middle-aged couples rather than the places frequented by young people as I saw some violence being visited on a kid by bouncers and it made me nauseous; I tried greeting another one of those beings when entering another club but he simply responded by pointing towards the endless line, which I got tired of in a minute to my credit. I really feel like I'm violating a part of my being by going to clubs given how alien it feels especially on the weekends but hobbies have not provided much help either so far, although there's a woman in my dance class I'll probably ask out if the opportunity presents itself. On one level I'm simply happy to get some attention from women despite the horrid conditions but I'm not sure if the harm done by it will come back to haunt me later as things just cannot be unseen or unheard anymore.