Quote: (01-13-2017 08:30 AM)Nascimento Wrote:
Let me add a couple of things I don't think the others mentioned.
You're in Brazil, right? Needless to say your situation is very common there. If so consider what I say as being from one Brazilian to another. Tons of young-middle aged adults living with their parents, struggling to make an income.
It's not your fault. The economy is not making it easier for you.
Of course there's always something to be done. You'll figure it out -- if you want it badly enough. Recognize that feeling down about the situation like you are right now is necessary for moving forward. How else are you to kick your own ass? Motivation is internal -- looking to outside sources for external motivation is just feel-good nonsense that wouldn't help you anyway.
It seems like you're humble. Better said, not spoiled. Which is huge. You're glad to have a roof over your head and you're scared to be leeching off your parents. They don't see you as a parasite, and again, your situation is normal. Being at home at 22 is fine. That said, 32 is not. So start developing a plan to ensure you're in a better position 10 years from now.
Are you grateful for your ability to speak English? You're incredibly fluent. This alone gives you opportunities the majority of your peers would envy you for. Just the fact you can be on this forum and look up resources to help you get ahead is enough to make all the time you spent learning English worth it. After all, if it is your second language.
Lastly, the girl-virgin problem is perhaps the one that annoys you most. I know it because I was there too not long ago. Thankfully, it's easily solved... If you want it badly enough... I did--I was hitting the bars and clubs 2 times a week for a year. Many times solo, almost always sober. I would day-approach 5 girls a week. Do the math, and in a year you can see how being consistent with this routine would literally change your dating life forever.
Night game is great practice. No money for those expensive clubs? Try to find the no cover spots, and force yourself to sober-game. Get online and go on a date or two. And you can always trust day game to harden you up quickly... As long as you want it badly enough.
It really bears repeating. A man with a will to stop at nothing until he gets what he wants is practically unstoppable.
The tools are out there man. Being disappointed about your current situation is good. It's the impetus you need to get moving.
Good luck. Stick around, there's plenty on the forum to help you.
What large city are you in, by the way?
Thanks. I do see your point about not being my fault, but I don't really like to see myself through that perspective, since it may lead to laziness if I'm not careful.
I am living in Vitória - ES.