The problem I’m having right now is that I’m getting stuck sending messages that are basically just small talk (movies and music). I’m having trouble building a connection with women on there and I feel like I’m stuck going back and forth talking about things that won’t create attraction. I don’t have an interesting life or any interesting hobbies, so I can’t really talk about anything exciting (I don’t travel and I’m not very social). I do have a college degree and a job that pays decent salary that I’m also passionate about (it’s in the STEM field). Music and movies are my go-to topic for getting to know women through messages and I also like to use witty banter. I don’t feel that it’s going anywhere though.
Here’s a sample conversation:
My initial message:
What's your favorite episode of [TV show she listed on her profile]? And what's your favorite song by [band she listed on her profile]? By the way, do I get brownie points for messaging you with something other than “ur hot”?
Her initial response:
The first one of the first series was my favorite, since it was the most disturbing! yours? Yes, you would earn points if I had a point system for a better message than "hey, what's up?", "Hi" , "I think yer cute".
My response:
I totally agree that the first episode was the most disturbing. My favorite is definitely [my favorite episode]. I like how the third season has such great political commentary. I’ve heard that [TV show she listed on profile] is a lot like [similar TV show], so I’m kind of interested in checking out [similar TV show that’s old], although I don’t know if it has aged well. I highly recommend you check out the song [song I like] by [band I like], since you like [band on her profile that’s similar to band I like]. I bet you lbs10 (I don’t know how to insert the British symbol for pounds and this is my attempt at being clever) that you’ll like it. I’ve been listening to it on repeat all day. One of my quirks is that I listen to a song on repeat for hours or days if I really like it. Do you have any interesting quirks?
Also, if you ever get a dog, definitely name him [joke name for a dog on her profile]. It has this really tough Roman gladiator vibe. My boss from back in the day named her dog titan, but he was really small.
Her second response:
I would name my dog [joke name on her profile] only if he looked like a glutton and had slobbery jowls, it would be more fitting.
I liked [my favorite episode of TV show on her profile], it seems like every season of [same TV show] has a lot of political commentary. Perhaps the upcoming Trumpocalypse will provide fodder for future [same TV show] seasons!
I'll check em out. I do that too with songs, I just hate when I ruin the initial high the song first gave me by listening to it too many times
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I responded by asking her what she does for a living, since she was very vague in her profile. I asked if she’s an artist and that I used to take art classes when I was a kid and mentioned some details about that. I’m not sure if that’s the proper direction to take though.
What do you think of the conversation in general? What can I improve on? What can I talk about that’ll help me build attraction? How do I work with the fact that I don’t have an interesting life and can’t really talk about the usual topics that build value (travel, interesting hobbies and stories)? Any tips would be appreciated.
Also, how and when do I ask for her number so I can move to texting on the phone? I want to get to a point where if I ask for her number to text her, she’ll be interested in me enough to actually give it to me. I also want to make sure that I’m not doing it too early and what signs to look for that’ll give me the green light to ask for her number.
Here’s a sample conversation:
My initial message:
What's your favorite episode of [TV show she listed on her profile]? And what's your favorite song by [band she listed on her profile]? By the way, do I get brownie points for messaging you with something other than “ur hot”?
Her initial response:
The first one of the first series was my favorite, since it was the most disturbing! yours? Yes, you would earn points if I had a point system for a better message than "hey, what's up?", "Hi" , "I think yer cute".
My response:
I totally agree that the first episode was the most disturbing. My favorite is definitely [my favorite episode]. I like how the third season has such great political commentary. I’ve heard that [TV show she listed on profile] is a lot like [similar TV show], so I’m kind of interested in checking out [similar TV show that’s old], although I don’t know if it has aged well. I highly recommend you check out the song [song I like] by [band I like], since you like [band on her profile that’s similar to band I like]. I bet you lbs10 (I don’t know how to insert the British symbol for pounds and this is my attempt at being clever) that you’ll like it. I’ve been listening to it on repeat all day. One of my quirks is that I listen to a song on repeat for hours or days if I really like it. Do you have any interesting quirks?
Also, if you ever get a dog, definitely name him [joke name for a dog on her profile]. It has this really tough Roman gladiator vibe. My boss from back in the day named her dog titan, but he was really small.
Her second response:
I would name my dog [joke name on her profile] only if he looked like a glutton and had slobbery jowls, it would be more fitting.
I liked [my favorite episode of TV show on her profile], it seems like every season of [same TV show] has a lot of political commentary. Perhaps the upcoming Trumpocalypse will provide fodder for future [same TV show] seasons!
I'll check em out. I do that too with songs, I just hate when I ruin the initial high the song first gave me by listening to it too many times
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I responded by asking her what she does for a living, since she was very vague in her profile. I asked if she’s an artist and that I used to take art classes when I was a kid and mentioned some details about that. I’m not sure if that’s the proper direction to take though.
What do you think of the conversation in general? What can I improve on? What can I talk about that’ll help me build attraction? How do I work with the fact that I don’t have an interesting life and can’t really talk about the usual topics that build value (travel, interesting hobbies and stories)? Any tips would be appreciated.
Also, how and when do I ask for her number so I can move to texting on the phone? I want to get to a point where if I ask for her number to text her, she’ll be interested in me enough to actually give it to me. I also want to make sure that I’m not doing it too early and what signs to look for that’ll give me the green light to ask for her number.