Quote: (12-27-2016 09:24 PM)John Michael Kane Wrote:
Quote: (12-27-2016 09:07 PM)nek Wrote:
The issue I always have to reconcile is... if there's a woman you have to constantly "handle" and "keep in check", is she worth keeping? What do you gain? I'm of the opinion that if a woman respects you, she won't put you in situations where you have to handle her very often, if at all. The chick in the OP mentioned that if her boyfriend would've backhanded her after the first time cheating, she would've fallen in line. But at that point, you have a girl that's cheated on you. What kind of victory is that?
You are correct that men ought to screen early and often for women who don't constantly shit test them. Still, even the nicest of women want to make sure you are a man. That's understandable. The really wife worthy woman tests you occasionally, but doesn't hit you when you fail, but encourages you to do better in a proactive way. I agree that there is no point in being in a LTR, much less marriage with a woman who needs constant hand.
That's part of the reason why super hot women are often NOT the best choice for a wife. They know they have "the goods" and a cute, but not high on herself chick is a better LTR option. Can you imagine dating some HB9 from Instagram with 2 million followers? She will shit test you all the time because she has millions of thirsty men to replace you. That's why a man MUST FILTER!
Agree with JMK, 7.5-8 FTW long term. I don't know about you but I naturally gravitate towards the demure cuties that make me want to drink hot cocoa by the fire before I rail her as opposed to the flawless model looking chick that can break necks on Madison Avenue. I've always been this way.
Its completely acceptable for women to test for strength. After all, the world was a very dangerous place for women for the longest of times. Come in contact with the wrong tribesmen while out scavenging for food and bye bye. Their operating systems simply havent and never will catch up to the abundant environment we currently live in.
NEK, if shouldn't be work to parry away their silly tests. It should be internalized that men built, ran, and pioneered the world. Women have always been passengers on the ride. Remember that and it all comes into place. Their tests often revolve around "should's" and "feelings" which are both subjective, soplistic outlooks. (Be wary of anyone that uses the term "should" too often, its a ruse to avoid accountability)
If it gets to the point where she has to cheat and needs you to slap the respect back into her well that most likely is a lost cause. Either you were always a weakling or more likely, she was a carton of cracked eggs.