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(12-22-2016 05:16 PM)kamoz Wrote:  

•Escalation of Text Game: Every interaction is different, and I am by no means an expert in this arena. However, I have found that I’ve had the most success when I don’t stress over details like timing my responses. In this case, success was an SNL, other times it’s just a date or simply the girl not going radio silent. You want things to flow naturally. If you play hard to get too soon, she will probably lose interest. If you respond to her normally and she goes radio silent, then she probably wasn’t all that interested in the first place anyway. So why stress over details at all? Respond normally at first, and if that means responding in under a minute if you’re not busy, go ahead and do that. Just remember to always keep your eyes on the prize and have each text message serve a purpose in advancing your cause – don’t waste your own time. Be a man on a mission. As the interaction matures, don’t feel like you have to respond to every single thing she says like a sucker (because she WILL know).

Yes. These days that "time out the responses" stuff I pretty much reserve for girls who I've already had a couple good dates with (i.e. sex or pretty close to it) and I'm trying to keep her on the line for more by not being needy. Girls I've been seeing for a while I pretty much do whatever seems correct at the time via text: if she's eager one day and wants to be chatty I'll be chatty, if she's aloof the next then I'll go do my own thing and not stress over getting back promptly.

In the initial stages however I think it's best to strike while the iron's hot: young women just have too much attention blasting in from all sides to always make at least what I would consider the right call.

I can't tell you how many Tinder and OKCupid bangs I've probably lost because I had a girl chatting with me who was enthusiastic, sometimes even pitching the meet idea herself, and by the time I get back to the text with a response even just four hours later (because I have a fairly mentally-demanding job and have to like, actually work and not have my phone glued to my hand all goddamn day) she's as ghost as Yasser Arafat.

The sadly amusing thing is that some of these "girls" aren't even girls at all, they're fucking 35!

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Red Pill & The True Nature of Women: Just because a woman is in a relationship, engaged, or married with children does not mean shit, especially in today’s society. This is not by any means intended to suggest that you should go out and game women who are in relationships or marriages and try to be a homewrecker, but if a woman is expressing interest in you even though she is in a relationship/married do not think that she is simply being playful or whatever. She is interested, and if you don’t give her dick someone else will.

Don't I know it. I went back to the cribs of two girls this year after a "good date" cuz they were down to step up the action, and oh shit whose men's shoes are these? Oh we're going to bang on the couch in the living room, I see. Ah, you're "poly." You've got a copy of "The Ethical Slut." I see, I see.

These girls can be easy lays as they're usually under the gun, but sadly not useful for much other than a ONS. For my part if a girl tells me she's already in some kind of exclusive relationship prior to the bang I am out as there are too many girls who aren't in the world to deal with it. If she only tells me afterwards in the fashion of serious sociopathic behavior as one hottie did I am also out, as a chick who could lie to your face about that could lie to you about absolutely anything.

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Basically going from texting to selfies to nude selfies and building sexual tension for, and arranging, the meetup. What can slow the advancement? Basically girls wanting to talk about bullshit like career, family drama, boyfriend, or in this case her fiancé.

I don't usually do the selfie-trading stuff. I traded naked pics once or twice with iGirls and when I met them in person it didn't strike me as making the process particularly any easier than with any other girl. One I didn't manage to lay on the first date and she just ghosted on me like any other girl.

I've never noticed pre-date phone calls to make a whole lot of difference either, in fact I think they've actually hurt me more than helped. Girls who want to talk on the phone before the meet are IMO ambivalent about dating to begin with, and I think there's a strong undercurrent of thirst and neediness to it; that a guy would actually take the time out to accommodate her silly "you might be a serial killer but if I talk with you for a half-hour I'm going to be safe" rationalizations.

Maybe it's a different jam when trying to pull girls who are already, ah, in a "situation", or with girls from the past who you already have some interactions with, or with younger girls who are obsessed with selfies and such things, but I try to keep pre-date texting to a minimum.

Sometimes girls want to BS a bit about their work or family drama a bit on the date and that's okay, it's just the usual "get to know you" stuff that comes with running conversation/bar date game and is straightforward to play to the left. If a girl I've never met before is trying to engage with me like I'm their therapist via text then I usually make the assumption that she's not much interested in banging, that it's going to be an uphill struggle, and usually disengage. YMMV.