Quote: (12-02-2016 04:07 PM)ceowannabe Wrote:
I'm 23 yo immigrant from Russia (since 13). I grew up poor and from young age was very passionate to change that. I quit school at 17 and started working 2 jobs instead. At 19 i saved up and started my own business. It's been rough for a long time. 2 years i lived on rice and water only, i was focused 100% on business, nothing else on my mind, I was (am) working 18-19 hours a day. Almost always forgetting to eat. Always have "shit" to deal with. I never been on a vacation or had time to watch TV, play video games, party or what other guys my age do. I didnt tried weed or been drunk in my life, I was just a work monster.
Today I'm 23 and that's my situation:
I'm set financially. I make at least 50k$ a month whether I worked or slept 24h a day. My business growing month by month. Bought house with no mortgage. That's the only "good" thing in my life.
No social life at all. I have 1 "friend" which is employee. I was only focusing on my business my whole adult life.
-Lack of "romantic" expirience. I had 1 gf for very short period of time long time ago. It doesnt help that I'm kinda shy. That's the thing bugging me the most.
Im asking you for advice... what would you do if you were me.
I do most of the work on the laptop now, i dont have to physically go there. Actually my business blew up after I "hacked" the "online game" which gives me huge advantage over my competitors in my area.
So I'm free in terms of location. I'm free financially. But..
Now i want to enjoy my life more. Less workoholic - more being normal human being.
Thing is I'm kinda stuck. Idk where to start. Should i fly aboard? Where the hell I'm suppost to find "social life" from zero?
What would u do if u were me? :\nThanks
Its an interesting question. Not least because I'm considering some of the themes for myself right now.
Let me explain. Like you, I left my country of birth at 13. Since then I've been ultra focussed on my business and haven't considered "getting a job" for a long, long time. I don't really "get" some people, and I've seen friendships, even whole circles of friends come and go again in recent years. Not my "fault", some were toxic people, others just faded away. I'm of Russian descent on my father's side, and was looking at settling with a Russian girl til things all fucked up recently. Anyway, now I'm thinking "business is fine, time to focus on winning life". I'm seriously looking at moving to Russia in 2017. My social skills are good, but .. I need to start concentrating on life not business again.
OK on your situation. 1stly congratulations on what you've done so far. You really need to protect what you've done. Never take things for granted with it. And never think that splashing money can enhance your life and relationships. If people try and guilt trip you, be firm, or even cut them off temporary or permanent.
Try and get some balance in your life. Otherwise you will feel drained. There's a pattern of people asking qs here saying "what should I do?" just before some sort of "crunch event" occurs.
Be methodical about building a life. Friends, hobbies, pussy, community stuff etc. You can't learn and succeed at everything all at once. What sort of life, friends, hobbies, girls do you want? What interests you? Life doesn't just "happen", it needs management, a keen eye, strength of decisionmaking and self-honesty. Your business is cold hard logic. But life has its own "logic".
Example: in school and college I did martial arts (still do). Problem is, it meant I didn't play football or rugby. Which meant, I found it far harder to settle in the "cool crew". I had my reasons to do martial arts, but if I'd realised "avoiding football/rugby will stop cool friendships and lots of pussy" would I have concentrated on martial arts? Erm, nope, not in those years. To me, life is full of these sorts of decisions. You have to do these things to get in with people, no matter how illogical or bizarre they are. And you will get the rewards back.
A mentor like Suits would be great for you. I'd think of it almost like a business plan. But brief, punchey, realistic and scaleable. Who do you want to be? Do you like sports, drinking beer, playing guitar, or what else? Good luck, and if I can help, give me a shout!